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We are living in a world of VUCA: Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous world.  If you are struggling to look for answers, a 7,000-year old oriental wisdom called Yijing can help.  The Yijing (I Ching or Book of Changes) helps manage VUCA by shifting your focus from trying to predict the future to adapting to the present. It teaches that change is the only constant, providing a mental framework to navigate chaos.   Here is how Yijing specifically tackles each element of VUCA: 1. Countering Volatility with Cyclic Change Change is Constant. Change is not random; it moves in predictable, cyclical patterns (like seasons or day and night). Management Application: When business hits a volatile peak or valley, Yijing reminds leaders that this state is temporary. It prevents panic during downturns and complacency during booms. 2. Countering Uncertainty with "Timeliness" ( Shi ) Shi Concept: Success depends on Shi (doing the right thing at the exact right moment). Manag...

From Common Sense to Common Practice After many years of training people, I have come to realise something: The most important things in life are often not things we don't know. They are things we know, but don't do. We know we should listen.  We know we should care.  We know we should appreciate people. We know trust takes years to build and moments to destroy.  We know we should have the courage to do what is right. These are common sense. But common sense is not always common practice. And that is why I believe the job of a trainer is not simply to transfer knowledge. A trainer must touch hearts. Knowing Is Not Enough If participants leave my class saying, “Andy taught me many things today,” I have only completed part of my job. I want them to leave saying: “I already knew some of these things. But today, I finally felt them.” Because when something touches your heart, you remember it differently. And when you remember it differently, you are more likely to live it di...

永续，不只是环保，而是爱的智慧 很多人一谈到“永续” 或可持续性发展，首先想到的是环保、减碳、绿色能源。 但真正的永续，远远不只是“绿色”。 永续，是我们满足今天的需要，却不牺牲下一代满足他们需要的能力。 对企业而言也是如此。真正的企业永续，不只是赚今天的钱，而是在追求经济成果的同时，也照顾员工、客户、社会、环境与商业伦理，为所有利益相关者创造长期价值。 而这一切的背后，其实需要一种很重要的能力—— 爱的智慧（Love Intelligence） 。 爱的智慧有三个核心： 关爱、勇气、连接。 关爱（Care） ，让我们想到的不只是自己，也想到那些可能永远不会遇见的人，甚至尚未出生的下一代。 勇气（Courage） ，让我们愿意为了更长远的未来，放弃眼前的一点利益；面对不对的事情，也敢于说“不”。 连接（Connection） ，让我们明白：人与人、企业与社会、今天与未来，从来都不是彼此独立的。我们今天所做的每一个决定，都可能成为别人明天生活的一部分。 所以，永续并不只是企业写在ESG报告里的数字，也不只是少用几个塑料袋、多种几棵树。 永续，其实是把爱的智慧延伸到未来。 因为我们关爱一些可能永远不会遇见的人； 我们有勇气为明天，牺牲今天的一点方便与利益； 我们更明白，自己与下一代的命运，始终紧紧相连。 这就是永续。 也是爱的智慧，留给未来最美好的礼物。

How Love Intelligence Creates Sustainability Sustainability is often misunderstood as simply “going green.” It is much bigger than that. Sustainability means meeting today’s needs without compromising the ability of future generations to meet theirs . For companies, sustainability means creating long-term stakeholder value by balancing economic performance, environmental responsibility, social well-being and ethical governance. This is where Love Intelligence (LQ) becomes highly relevant. The Love Intelligence framework is built around 3Cs: Care, Courage and Connection . 1. CARE — Think beyond yourself and today Care means considering how our actions affect other people, society and future generations. Personally, we care for our health, relationships, family and resources instead of sacrificing tomorrow for immediate gratification. Corporately, Care means looking beyond short-term profits. A company considers employees, customers, communities, suppliers and the environment ...

D ear You Is Actually Full of Sun Tzu’s Art of War There are no battlefields, generals or weapons in Dear You . Yet the philosophy of Sun Tzu’s Art of War is everywhere in the movie. The film does not “teach” Sun Tzu. It lives Sun Tzu. 1. Win Without Fighting: The Highest Victory Defeats No One Sun Tzu’s highest ideal is not winning a hundred battles. It is achieving victory without having to fight . In Dear You , the characters repeatedly choose not to fight, confront, possess or expose. Shurou does not resolve relationships through confrontation. Nanzhi and Musheng do not allow their complicated relationship to become one of possession. Again and again, we see restraint, acceptance, patience and sacrifice. The greatest victory is not when I win and you lose. It is when the relationship does not lose. That is Win Without Fighting . 2. Know Yourself, Know Others: Understand Before You Act “Know yourself, know your enemy” is often interpreted as studying your competitors. But in relati...

《给阿嬷的情书》不是在“讲”《孙子兵法》，而是在“活出”《孙子兵法》。 电影里没有战场、没有将军、没有兵器，但处处都是人与人之间如何面对利益、冲突、距离、误解和选择。这恰恰是《孙子兵法》更深层的智慧。 1. 不战而胜：最高明的胜利，不需要打败任何人 孙子的最高境界并不是“百战百胜”，而是不战而屈人之兵。 《给阿嬷的情书》里面的人物，很多时候都没有选择争、抢、逼、拆穿。 淑柔没有用冲突解决感情；南枝与木生之间也没有因为复杂的关系而互相占有；许多人物选择的是克制、成全、等待和承担。 真正的赢，不是我赢你输，而是关系没有输。 这就是“Win Without Fighting”。 2. 知己知彼：先看懂人，才知道应该怎么做 很多人把“知己知彼，百战不殆”理解成研究竞争对手。 但放在人际关系和领导力中，它更深： 知己——知道自己的欲望、恐惧、能力与界限。 知彼——理解别人的处境、需要、难处与选择。 《给阿嬷的情书》感人的地方，就是人物慢慢从“我想要什么”，走向“我终于明白你为什么这样做”。 所以， 知己知彼不是为了打败别人，而是为了减少不必要的战争。 3. 致人而不致于人：不让环境决定你成为谁 孙子说：“善战者，致人而不致于人。” 真正厉害的人，不是被别人、金钱、情绪和环境牵着走，而是拥有自己的主动权。 这也正好呼应《给阿嬷的情书》一个很深的主题： 金钱可以改变你拥有什么， 爱却决定你成为什么样的人。 小伟可以被金钱驱动；木生、南枝、淑柔等人却一次次面对自己的选择。 外面的局势未必由我们决定，但我们可以决定自己用什么方式回应。 《孙子兵法》不是一本教人打仗的书，而是把华人几千年来“如何做人、如何处世、如何面对冲突”的智慧写成了兵法。 《给阿嬷的情书》没有一句孙子，却处处有孙子。 孙子兵法不在战场，而在人心。 《给阿嬷的情书》没有战争，却活出了“不战而胜”。 这也可以成为一个很好的文章/视频主题： 《给阿嬷的情书》原来是一部《孙子兵法》电影 没有战争，没有敌人，却处处都是“不战而胜”的智慧。

For Money, We Do Whatever It Takes; For Love, We Become Who We Truly Are What Dear You Teaches Me About Love Intelligence Dear You made me realize something profound: Money reveals what we want. Love reveals who we truly are. Look at the four characters. Xiao Wei goes to Thailand for money. He wants to find his supposedly “rich Grandpa Musheng” and claim the wealth he believes is waiting for him. At the beginning, he is not searching for family, history or love. He is searching for money. Nanzhi also does whatever it takes—but not to receive. She does it to repay gratitude. After Musheng dies, she spends 18 years writing letters and sending money to Shurou in China under his name. No recognition. No reward. She is simply preserving Qing Yi. Musheng works relentlessly to earn and save money. But money is never his destination. His family is. He spends little on himself so that he can send more home to his wife and children. Shurou raises three children largely on her own. She does not k...

  为了钱，我们不惜一切；为了爱，我们成为真正的自己 《给阿嬷的情书》教会我的爱的智慧 《给阿嬷的情书》让我明白了一件事： 金钱，让我们看见自己想得到什么。 爱，却让我们看见自己究竟是什么样的人。 看看电影里的四个人。 小伟为了钱来到泰国。他一心想找到“有钱的阿公木生”，得到自己期待的财富。开始时，他寻找的不是故事，不是亲情，而是钱。 南枝同样“不惜一切”，但她不是为了得到，而是为了报恩。木生离世后，她十八年来替木生写信、寄钱给远在中国的淑柔。没有名分，没有掌声，也没有回报。她守住的是一份情义。 木生拼命赚钱、省钱，但金钱从来不是他的目的。家人才是。 他舍不得花在自己身上，只希望多寄一点钱回家，让妻儿过得好一点。 淑柔则独自把三个孩子抚养成人。她没有不断要求远在泰国的木生为她做更多，只是默默承担、默默等待、默默地爱。 四个人，都在“不惜一切”。 但背后的意义完全不同。 为了钱，我们不惜一切，是为了得到。 为了爱，我们不惜一切，是因为这就是我们。 这也许就是《给阿嬷的情书》最深刻的地方。 爱，不只是他们心里的一种感觉。 爱，让他们活出了自己的品格：忠诚, 责任, 感恩, 付出, 勇气。 最终，他们都成为了有情有义的人。 这正是《爱的智慧》（LQ）。 关爱（Care），让我们不再只想到自己。 勇气（Courage），让我们即使困难，也坚持做对的事。 连接（Connection），让我们找到比自己更值得付出的意义。 所以，《给阿嬷的情书》真正问我们的，也许不是： “你有多爱一个人？” 而是： “因为爱，你成为了一个怎样的人？” 金钱，可以改变你拥有什么。 爱，却决定你成为什么样的人。

Why Watch Dear You More Than Once? 5 Connections Through the Lens of Love Intelligence Many people do not watch Dear You just once. They watch it twice, three times, even five times. Why? Because this is not merely a movie about a story. It is a movie about life . 1. The First Time, You See the Story We follow Mu Sheng, Lan Zhi and Shurou. We laugh with them. We cry with them. We are moved by what happens, but we may not yet understand its deeper meaning. 2. The Second Time, You See the People You begin noticing every glance, every line and every silence. You discover that some of the most touching moments come not from dramatic events, but from ordinary people quietly doing extraordinary things. 3. The Third Time, You See Yourself Something changes. Mu Sheng, Nan Zhi and Shurou are no longer just characters. They become mirrors. We are no longer crying only for them. We cry for the sincerity we once had, the people we missed, and the words we never managed to say....

为什么《给阿嬷的情书》值得看好几次？ 爱的智慧告诉我们的5大因缘 很多人看完《给阿嬷的情书》，不是只看一次。 而是两次、三次，甚至五次。 为什么？ 因为，这不是一部看剧情的电影，而是一部看人生的电影。 一、第一次，看故事。 我们跟着木生、南枝、淑柔一起笑、一起哭。 被剧情感动，却还没有真正看懂。 二、第二次，看人物 。 开始留意每一个眼神、每一句对白、每一个沉默。 才发现，最动人的，往往不是主角，而是那些默默付出的人。 三、第三次，看自己 。 这时候，电影里的木生、南枝、淑柔，慢慢变成了自己。 我们哭的，不是他们，而是自己曾经失去的真心、曾经错过的人、曾经来不及说出口的话。 四、第四次，看爱的智慧。 开始明白，电影讲的不只是爱情。 而是关爱、勇气、连接。 看见情义，看见真善美， 也看见《易经》的一体、阴阳与变化。 五、第五次，看因缘。 佛家说：“一切皆因缘。” 人与人的相遇，不是偶然。 木生遇见南枝，兰芝守护淑柔，淑柔等待木生，每一封侨批，每一次选择， 都是因缘。 今天，你走进电影院，也不是偶然。 也许，这部电影来到你的生命，正是为了提醒你： 珍惜眼前人，勇敢去爱。 好好活出有情有义的人生。 所以，《给阿嬷的情书》值得一看再看，不是因为剧情复杂。 而是因为，每一次看，你都不一样了。 电影没有改变。改变的是你。 这就是《爱的智慧》。同一部电影，不同的人生阶段，看见不同的自己。 也许，这就是《给阿嬷的情书》最大的魅力。 它不是让你重复看一部电影。 而是让你， 一次又一次，重新认识自己。

  Love Is Never a Burden What Dear You Teaches Us About Pure Love Many people say,  "Love is hard.",  "I feel so tired loving someone."   "I feel pressured to be loved." But perhaps what we are carrying is not love . It is responsibility .  Or expectation,  guilt or  fear. Because love itself is never a burden.  Love simply loves.  Nothing more.  Nothing less. Dear You beautifully demonstrates this truth. First, Nanzhi never expected anything in return. For eighteen years, she wrote letters and sent money to Shurou under Musheng's name. She never asked for recognition, gratitude or even friendship. She loved because she chose to love. Second, Xie Laishun loved his child unconditionally. Though poor and often misunderstood, everything he did was for his family. He never kept score, never demanded repayment. Like many parents, his love was expressed through quiet sacrifice rather than words. Third, Shurou never measured M...