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At first glance, they couldn't be more different. One is a 2,500-year-old military classic. The other is a heartwarming movie that has touched millions through its message of Qing Yi (情义) —care, loyalty, integrity, and courage. Yet both teach the same timeless truth. Sun Tzu wrote: "The supreme excellence is to win without fighting." He also taught that the highest form of leadership is to unite people through the Dao (道) —a shared moral purpose that inspires willing commitment rather than forced obedience. In Dear You , we see this lived out through Qing Yi . People do not stay because they are forced to. They stay because they care. They sacrifice because relationships matter. They choose loyalty over convenience. That is leadership through the heart. In today's organizations, leaders often rely on authority, KPIs, and processes. These are necessary, but they are rarely enough to inspire discretionary effort. People may comply with authority. But they commit to Qin...

  《给阿嬷的情书》之所以成为现象级电影，并不只是因为它拍得好。 而是因为，我们都觉得自己和这部电影有关系。 我们对这部电影有一种**“利害关系” 它不是别人的故事。 它讲的，就是我们的人生。 这部电影几乎完全靠观众口碑传播，很多人看了一次，还会再看第二次、第三次。 这不是宣传的力量。而是共鸣的力量。 因为电影里的每一个片段，都让我们想起生命中的某一个人。 那个曾经深爱的人。 那个已经离开的人。 那个来不及说谢谢的人。 那个一直默默陪伴我们，却被我们忽略的人。 于是，我们哭了。不是因为剧情悲伤。 而是因为电影让我们重新看见了自己。 它唤醒了那些早已被忙碌掩盖的情感。 爱。失去。距离。关怀。感恩。 连接。勇气。 这些，并不仅仅是情绪。 这些，正是 人之所以为人 。 今天，我们不断讨论AI能够做什么。 或许，更重要的问题应该是： 人，究竟是什么？ 《给阿嬷的情书》给了我们一个简单却深刻的答案。 做人，就是懂得去爱。 懂得关心别人。 懂得感恩。 懂得珍惜。 懂得陪伴。 懂得活出 情义 。 这也是为什么这部电影能够如此打动人心。 因为它提醒我们，无论我们的职位有多高，财富有多少，科技发展得多快， 我们终究只是一个渴望爱、渴望被爱、渴望被理解的人。 在AI越来越聪明的时代，真正珍贵的竞争力， 不是更聪明，而是更有人情味。 而这， 正是《给阿嬷的情书》的力量。 也是《爱的智慧》一直想告诉我们的： 有情有义，才是真正的人。

Why has *Dear You* become such an extraordinary phenomenon? People are not simply watching the movie. They feel they have a stake in it. The film spreads almost entirely through word of mouth. Many people return to the cinema to watch it a second or even third time. That rarely happens because of clever marketing. It happens because people see part of their own lives reflected on the screen. They remember someone they once loved. Someone they lost. Someone they never had the chance to thank. Someone they wish they had spent more time with. The movie is not telling someone else's story. It is reminding us of our own. That is why audiences cry. Not because the story is sad, but because it awakens feelings that have been buried beneath the busyness of modern life. Love,  Loss,  Distance,  Care,  Gratitude,  Connection,  Courage. These are not just emotions. They are what make us human. In a world where AI is becoming increasingly intelligent, we often ask what...

为什么《给阿嬷的情书》能够感动千千万万人？ 没有大牌明星，没有庞大预算，没有铺天盖地的宣传，却让无数观众走进电影院，一看再看。 因为它打动人的，不是特效，而是真、善、美。 **真，带来相信。** 电影真实，没有刻意煽情，没有刻意包装，所以观众相信它。 在现实生活中也是如此。 真实的人，最容易赢得信任。 **真，创造可信度。** **善，带来信任。** 电影最经典的一句话： **“做人要有情有义。”** 情义，不只是善良，更是关爱、诚信、勇气和担当。 一个有情有义的人，会关心别人，会信守承诺，会在困难时选择做对的事。 这样的人，别人自然愿意信任。 **善，创造信任。** **美，带来忠诚。** 电影最美的，不是画面，而是人与人之间真挚的情感。 当真实遇见情义，便产生了人与人之间深刻的连接。 而连接，创造共鸣。 共鸣，创造忠诚。 人们不会永远记住你说过什么， 却会永远记住你带给他们的感受。 这是《给阿嬷的情书》带给我们的启发。 **真，让人相信你。** **善，让人信任你。** **美，让人记住你，并愿意一直与你同行。** 这不仅是电影成功的秘诀， 也是领导、服务、品牌、销售和人生成功的秘诀。 这，也是《爱的智慧》（LQ）真正想传播的精神。

Why has Dear You become such an extraordinary phenomenon? It had no blockbuster budget, no  international stars, n o sophisticated marketing campaign. It wasn't even filmed in Mandarin, but in a regional Chinese dialect. Yet millions of people around the world have been deeply moved by it. Some have even returned to the cinema to watch it a second or third time. Why? The answer lies in three timeless values that the film embodies: Truth. Goodness. Beauty 真善美 These are not merely artistic ideals. They are powerful human forces that create resonance, trust and lasting loyalty—in movies, leadership, business and life. Truth → Authenticity → People Believe You People today are surrounded by polished presentations, AI-generated content and carefully crafted personal brands. Yet authenticity has become increasingly rare. Dear You resonates because it feels real. The emotions are real, so are the  struggles, t he characters. People believe what is authentic. The same applies to lea...

One of the most powerful lines in the movie 给阿嬷的情书  Dear You is: "Be a person of Qing Yi (情义)." That simple line has moved millions of people to tears. Not because it is profound. But because deep down, we know it is true. And perhaps, deep down, we also know that many of us have drifted away from it. We live in an age that celebrates efficiency. We chase speed. We chase results. We chase KPIs. We chase attention. We chase success. Gradually, we have become a different kind of person. A person who is modern, rational and highly productive. Yet at the same time, we have also become busy, tired and emotionally empty. We forget the people who once helped us. We spend less time appreciating those who matter. We become so occupied with living that we forget how to love. That is why Dear You makes us cry. Not because of the movie itself. But because the movie reminds us of our own lives. The words we never said. The people we neglected. The relationships we took for granted. The ...

  《给阿嬷的情书》里有一句最触动人心的话： “做人要有情有义。” 之所以这句话让无数人落泪，并不是因为它有多么深奥。 恰恰相反。 因为我们心里都知道，这是对的。 但我们也隐隐约约知道，我们已经离它越来越远了。 我们活在一个讲求效率的时代。追求速度， 结果， KPI， 流量， 成功。 渐渐地，我们变成了另一种人。一种很现代、很理性、很高效的人。 但与此同时，我们也变成了一种很忙、很累、很空的人。 我们越来越容易忘记别人对我们的好。 越来越少主动关心别人。 越来越少把时间留给重要的人。 甚至有时候，连自己也忘了如何去爱。 所以，《阿嬷的情书》让我们哭。 不是因为电影让我们哭。 而是因为电影让我们想起了自己的人生。 想起那些来不及说出口的话。 想起那些被忽略的人。 想起那些曾经有情有义，如今却被忙碌掩盖的自己。 这部电影的导演说，这部电影讲的是讲情义。 而我发现，这和我半年前出版的《爱的智慧》竟然如此相似。 在《爱的智慧》里，我提出了三个核心： 关爱（Care） 勇气（Courage） 连接（Connection） 关爱，是情。 勇气，是义。 连接，则是情义在人与人之间产生的力量。 当一个人愿意关爱别人，愿意做对的事，愿意建立真诚的连接， 情义便自然流露出来。 当我写《爱的智慧》的时候，我从来没有想过，竟然会有一部电影，把我想表达的东西演绎得如此生动、如此感人、如此深入人心。 因此，身为培训师，我觉得自己有一种责任， 不仅仅是教导知识， 更重要的是传播情义， 帮助人们重新学习如何关心别人，如何理解别人，如何珍惜别人，如何建立真实而长久的关系。 所以我决定把《阿嬷的情书》的精髓—— 情与义 融入我的课程之中。 如果《阿嬷的情书》感动了千万观众， 那么我希望透过我的《爱的智慧》书和课程，帮助更多人把感动变成行动。 让“做人要有情有义”，不只是电影里的一句台词。 而是我们每一天都能实践的人生智慧。

一部低成本电影。没有大牌演员。 没有耀眼奖项。没有铺天盖地的宣传。 没有大制作公司的加持。 甚至连对白都不是普通话，而是中国的方言。 然而，《阿嬷的情书》（Dear You）却在华语电影圈掀起了一场巨大的风暴。 从中国到加拿大，从新加坡到澳洲，无数观众一次又一次走进电影院，只为了再看一遍这部电影。 它究竟是怎么做到的？ 答案或许比我们想象的更简单。 这部电影没有刻意取悦观众，却深深触动了观众。 今天很多电影都在比拼：更高的预算，更大的明星，更炫的特效，更猛烈的宣传。 但《阿嬷的情书》比拼的却是另一种东西： 人心。 它讲的不是遥不可及的英雄故事， 而是每个人都能感受到的东西： 爱。思念。亲情。 回忆。牺牲。遗憾。希望。 观众不是在看电影， 而是在电影里看见了自己。 这就是共鸣的力量。 而共鸣，恰恰是这个时代最被低估的成功密码。 导演蓝鸿春曾说， 他只是想拍一部能够引起大家共鸣的好电影。 他没有想着成名，没有想着赚钱，更没有想着创造票房神话。 但正因为如此，反而创造了奇迹。 因为真实，最容易产生共鸣。 人们或许会被技巧吸引， 但最终会被真诚打动。 这也是《爱的智慧》（LQ）的核心精神。 很多人努力争取关注，LQ教我们创造连接。 很多企业努力推销产品，LQ教我们解决人们的问题。 很多领导努力获得追随者，LQ教我们真正关心别人。 很多创作者努力迎合算法，LQ教我们触动人心。 电影中最经典的一句话是： “做人要有情有义。” 或许，这正是电影成功的真正原因。 因为今天这个世界，并不缺聪明的人。 不缺资讯。不缺科技。不缺人工智能。 真正稀缺的，是“情义”。 人们渴望被理解。渴望被记得。 渴望被关心。渴望与人建立真实的连接。 《阿嬷的情书》让我们重新想起了一件最简单却最重要的事情： 真正打动人的，从来不是完美，而是真情。 不是炫耀，而是真诚。 不是包装，而是真实。 不是宣传，而是情义。 无论我们是企业家、领导者、父母、老师、培训师，还是内容创作者， 真正该问的问题不是： “我要怎样让别人注意我？” 而是： “我要怎样让别人感受到我的真心？” 因为当你触动人心，别人就会记住你。 当你创造连接，别人就会主动分享你。 当你活出情义，别人就会信任你。 而信任，最终会带来影响力、机会与成功。 这不仅是《阿嬷的情书》的成功密码。 也是所有长期成功的共同秘密。 而在《爱的智慧》里， 我把这种“情...

The CNA chart reveals something important. Young workers in Singapore are not disengaged because they are lazy. They are disengaged because many do not feel emotionally connected to their work, leaders, or organizations. The data suggests: Employee engagement drops from 35% among older workers to 16% among younger workers. Daily stress is higher. Daily worry is higher. Daily sadness is higher. Thriving is lower. Most organizations respond with more perks, higher salaries, better benefits, and engagement activities. These help.  But they do not address the deeper issue: People want to feel that they matter. This is where Love Intelligence (LQ) becomes a leadership advantage. The Hidden Problem Many young employees are asking questions that previous generations seldom asked: Why am I doing this? Does my work matter? Does anyone care about my growth? Am I just a resource or a human being? Is this company aligned with my values? In other words, they are...

When asked about the success of the hit movie Dear You , director Lan Hongchun gave a surprisingly simple answer. He said he only wanted to make a good movie that could resonate with people. He was not thinking about fame.  He was not chasing awards.  He was not obsessed with box-office numbers. He simply wanted to create something genuine and meaningful. Ironically, that may be precisely why the movie touched so many hearts. There is a powerful lesson here. Many people spend their lives chasing outcomes. They chase wealth, recognition, influence, sales, promotions, followers, and success. Yet the harder they chase, the further these things seem to move away. Love Intelligence teaches a different approach. If you want to resonate with people, you must first resonate with yourself. You must be aligned with your values.  Aligned with your purpose. Aligned with what you truly care about. When your thoughts, words, feelings, and actions are consistent, something remarkable ha...

Why Do Love Stories Move Us Most When Lovers Cannot Be Together? One reason Dear You  movie has touched so many hearts is that the lovers are separated by distance, time, and circumstances. 50 years.   Come to think of it, many of the world's most memorable love stories share the same theme. The lovers cannot be together. From ancient legends to modern movies, separation seems to make love more beautiful. Why? Because distance magnifies appreciation. When someone is absent, we remember what we value about them. When someone is beyond reach, we focus on their importance rather than their imperfections. When someone is gone, we suddenly notice the things we once took for granted. Ironically, many people become experts at missing each other, but not at appreciating each other. When two people are together every day, familiarity can slowly replace gratitude. The morning greeting becomes routine. The daily meal becomes expected. The little acts of care become invisible. We sto...

At its heart, Dear You (《阿嬷的情书》) is about one thing: Love. Not the dramatic love we see in fairy tales, but the quiet, enduring love that exists in everyday life. The movie portrays the l ove between husband and wife , a love that stays long after the excitement fades. It shows the love between friends: the kind that stands beside you when life becomes difficult. It reveals the love among people from the same hometown:  a bond built on shared memories, culture, and belonging. Most touching of all, it shows love between people who have never met. Through a letter, a story, and a sincere heart, strangers become connected. And then there is the love that spans 18 years. Eighteen years is long enough for people to change, for cities to transform, and for promises to be forgotten. Yet some love remains.  Not because it is convenient. Not because it is easy.  But because it is chosen, again and again. That is why this movie moves so many people. It reminds us that love takes ...

很多人看完《给阿嬷的情书》（ Dear You ），会被里面的情节感动，会被那些跨越时空的书信触动。 但如果要用一个字来概括整部电影的核心，我认为就是： 爱。 不是轰轰烈烈的爱。 不是海誓山盟的爱。 而是那些平凡却真实存在于人间的爱。 1. 电影里有夫妻之间的爱。 那是一种陪伴的爱。年轻时也许有激情，但岁月流逝后，剩下的是相互扶持、彼此照顾、不离不弃。 真正的爱，不是我爱你的时候你刚好年轻漂亮， 而是当岁月在彼此脸上留下痕迹时，依然愿意陪你走下去。 2. 电影里也有朋友之间的爱。 朋友未必天天见面， 但在你需要的时候，他愿意伸出援手； 在你跌倒的时候，他愿意陪你走一段路。 真正的友情，不是锦上添花，而是雪中送炭。 3. 电影里还有同乡之间的爱。 大家来自同一个地方，拥有共同的记忆、共同的语言、共同的文化。 这种连接超越了利益，是一种“我们是一家人”的归属感。 它提醒我们： 人与人之间最大的财富， 往往不是金钱， 而是人与人之间的信任和情义。 4. 电影更让人感动的是，它展现了 素未谋面的人之间的爱。 有些人从来没有见过面，没有血缘关系，甚至没有任何利益关系。 但因为一封信、一个故事、一份真诚，彼此的生命竟然产生了连接。 这是一种无条件的善意。 也是人性最珍贵的部分。 它告诉我们， 爱从来不一定要建立在认识之上， 有时候只是因为理解，就足以让两颗心靠近。 5. 而最令人动容的，莫过于电影里那份 横跨十八年的爱。 十八年，足以让一个婴儿长大成人； 足以让一座城市发生巨大变化； 也足以让许多人忘记曾经说过的话。 但有些爱，却能够穿越时间。 它不会因为距离而消失， 不会因为岁月而褪色， 不会因为等待而枯萎。 因为真正的爱，从来不是一种情绪， 而是一种选择。 一种年复一年、日复一日的选择。 这也是为什么《阿嬷的情书》能够感动无数观众。 因为它让我们看见： 爱的形式可以不同， 但爱的本质始终一样。 夫妻之爱，是陪伴。 朋友之爱，是支持。 同乡之爱，是归属。 陌生人之爱，是善意。 跨越十八年的爱，是承诺。 而这一切，都指向同一个答案： 做人要有情有义。 在《爱的智慧》（Love Intelligence, LQ）里， 我把这种“情”和“义”总结为三个字： Care（关爱）、Courage（勇气）、Connection（连接）。 关爱，让我们愿意理解别人； 勇气，让我们愿意为爱承...

Dear Andy, You are the only person who has walked with me every single day of my life. When others came and went like seasons, you remained through every sunrise and every storm. 1. You never left. Friends moved on, colleagues changed, and relationships evolved, but you stayed beside me through every triumph and every heartbreak. 2. You carried my dreams when no one could see them. When the world measured results, you protected possibilities. 3. You forgave me more times than I deserved. For every mistake, every detour, every missed opportunity, you quietly whispered, "Begin again." 4. You turned pain into wisdom. The wounds that could have made me bitter became lessons that made me kinder. 5. You chose courage over comfort. You walked away when staying would cost your soul. You stood for what was right, even when standing alone. 6. You discovered that love is not something to receive. It is something to become. And in becoming it, you found your true wealth. 7. You are the a...

Most people understand the Law of Attraction. They know that what they focus on expands. They know that positive thoughts, clear goals, and strong intentions attract desired outcomes. The problem is not that they don't know the Law of Attraction. The problem is that while trying to activate the Law of Attraction, they unknowingly activate the Law of Distraction (LoD) . The Law of Distraction happens when we become so obsessed with the outcome that we lose sight of the people, relationships, and actions that actually create the outcome. Example 1: At Work A manager wants a promotion.  He reads books on success, attends courses, and constantly visualizes himself becoming a director. Nothing wrong with that. But soon, his attention shifts entirely to his own advancement.  He stops listening to his team. He becomes impatient when colleagues need help. Every conversation becomes transactional: "How can this person help me get promoted?" Ironically, the more he chase...

One of the most memorable lines from the movie Dear You (《给阿嬷的情书》) is: “做人要有情有义。” Be a person of affection and righteousness. Simple words. Yet within them lies a profound life philosophy that echoes exactly what Love Intelligence (LQ) seeks to teach. Today, we live in an age where people are becoming smarter, faster and more connected than ever before. Artificial Intelligence can answer questions, write reports, compose music and even hold conversations. Yet many people feel more disconnected than ever. Why? Because intelligence alone is not enough. A person may be highly educated, highly skilled and highly successful, yet still struggle in relationships, leadership and life. This is where Love Intelligence comes in. In Chinese culture, “情” is not merely emotion. It is care, compassion, empathy and the ability to understand another person's heart. This is the first pillar of LQ: Care . When we genuinely care, people feel seen, valued and respected. But “情” alone is not enough. ...

Why Every Sun Tzu Student Should Learn Yijing Whenever I conduct a course on Sun Tzu's Art of War, participants are often fascinated by the strategies, tactics and timeless wisdom that have guided leaders, generals and businesspeople for over 2,500 years. However, I always remind them of one important fact: Sun Tzu did not create strategic thinking. He inherited it from something much older. That source is Yijing (I Ching), often regarded as the foundation of Chinese philosophy, strategy and leadership thinking. Many people know that Sun Tzu teaches us how to win. But fewer people realize that before we can choose a strategy, we must first understand the situation we are facing. This is where Yijing comes in. Sun Tzu answers the question: "What should I do?" Yijing answers the more fundamental question: "What is really happening?" Think about the decisions leaders face every day: Should I expand or consolidate? Should I confront or cooperate? Should I invest now...

如果我32年前懂得爱的智慧，我或许会用不同的标准选择和经营关系。 今天回头看，决定一段关系能否走到最后的，从来不是爱得有多深，而是双方有没有能力在漫长岁月里持续成长。 为什么聪明人也会选错伴侣？因为他们用短期指标选择长期队友。 选择伴侣，不是在谈恋爱，而是在选择长期博弈的队友 很多人以为爱情靠感觉维持，但事实上，真正能够走几十年的关系，本质上是一场长期博弈。 在《爱的智慧》中，我常说： > 爱不是一种感觉，而是一种能力 。 爱的智慧，就是在 长期关系中持续展现关爱（Care）、勇气（Courage）和连接（Connection）的能力。 热恋其实不难。 困难的是： 十年后还能不能尊重对方？ 冲突时还能不能保持理性？ 失望时还能不能选择善良？ 压力来临时还能不能守住原则？ 这些都不是情绪的问题，而是 品格的问题。 很多人选择伴侣时，看的是短期价值： 好不好看 有没有钱 有没有地位 带出去有没有面子 这些指标在恋爱初期或许重要， 但放到三十年的婚姻里，它们的价值会快速折旧。 真正决定关系质量的，是长期价值： 是否善良 是否愿意成长 是否能够承担责任 是否拥有正直的人格 是否能够处理冲突而不是逃避冲突 而这些，正是爱的智慧的核心。 因为关爱Care让我们愿意理解对方， 勇气Courage让我们敢于面对问题， 连接Connection让两个人能够共同成长。 我经历过30年的婚姻，也经历过婚姻的结束。 如果今天有人问我： 「选择伴侣最重要的条件是什么？」 我的答案可能很简单： 不是财富，不是外貌，不是学历。 而是这个人有没有爱的智慧。 因为外貌会改变， 财富会起伏， 地位会消失， 但一个拥有高爱的智慧的人， 即使遇到风雨， 依然会选择善良； 即使面对诱惑， 依然会选择正直； 即使关系出现裂痕， 依然愿意沟通和成长。 长期博弈的终极秘密，从来不是找到一个完美的人。 而是找到一个 愿意与你一起成长，并且拥有爱与正直的人。 因为所有关系最终都会回归到同一个问题： 当激情退去以后，剩下来的是什么？ 如果剩下来的是关爱，勇气和连接， 那么这段关系，才真正拥有穿越岁月的力量。