You Can Know Someone for 50 Years, and Never Really Know Them A husband and wife can be married for 30 years. Colleagues can work together for 20 years. Friends can know each other for half a lifetime. They talk every day. Yet they may never have had a deep conversation . We often mistake the frequency of conversation for the depth of connection. They are not the same. What Is a Deep Conversation? A deep conversation begins when we are willing to remove our masks. No pretending. No performing. No need to look strong, clever or successful. We allow another person to see something we normally hide, our fears, disappointments, insecurities, hopes and vulnerabilities. Imagine a husband comes home and tells his wife: “I was bullied at work today. I felt terrible.” What happens next? She may comfort him: “Don't worry about it.” Or advise him: “You need to be smarter next time.” Or redirect him: “We have more important things to worry about, ...
The Biggest Risk Is the One Your Board Cannot Imagine Most companies believe they understand risk. They have internal controls. Risk registers. Audit committees. Enterprise Risk Management. Policies, procedures and compliance frameworks. Yet companies with all these things still suffer major failures. Why? Because sometimes the greatest risk is not the risk you failed to measure . It is the risk you failed to imagine. The Problem with Risk Registers Traditional risk management often begins by identifying known risks, assessing their likelihood and impact, and then designing controls to mitigate them. This is necessary, but it has a weakness. It encourages us to think about tomorrow using what we already know today. But the future rarely behaves exactly like the past. Imagine a board discussing a major investment. Management says: “There is only a 10% probability that this will fail.” That sounds reassuring. But what exactly does 10% mean? What if s...