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How a Drunk Man Embodies Leadership with Sun Tzu Art of War

How Xie Laishun Embodies Leadership with Sun Tzu Art of War Most people remember Nanzhi's father Xie Laishun as the "drunk old man" in Dear You . He is always drunk and leaves the heavy lifting of running the hostel to his daughter.  He cannot even do his role properly as a watchman, and he led the police to the room upstairs where the children are secretly learning Chinese.  But I remember this drunk man differently.  Read the greatness of this drunk man at here https://andyngtrainer.blogspot.com/2026/07/the-drunked-great-man-xie-laishun-in.html He is a leader who perfectly demonstrates Sun Tzu's highest wisdom. 1. He Won Hearts Without Fighting Sun Tzu's greatest strategy is not defeating people, but winning without fighting . Xie Laishun never relied on authority, wealth, or force. Instead, he earned trust through kindness, sacrifice, and unwavering character. People followed him not because they had to, but because they wanted to. That is the highest form of ...
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The Man that is Always Drunk is the One that Made Everything Possible

What's so special about Xie Lai Shun? As the father of Lan Zhi, he is drunk most of the time and never really cares about the hostel business.   That is exactly what makes Xie Laishun one of the most brilliant, subverted, and universally praised characters in the movie  Dear You (给阿嬷的情书)!   While he initially appears to be a careless, alcohol-dependent slacker who leaves all the heavy lifting of the Bangkok Chinatown hostel to his daughter, he actually serves as Lan Zhi's greatest emotional anchor and safety net .  Without this drunk man, there will be no Musheng making a living in Thailand and Lan Zhi's writing of letters for 18 years.  Viewers and critics on platforms like Douban have pointed out several reasons why his character is profoundly special: 1. A Progressive, Unconditional Fatherly Love In an era and culture heavily weighed down by patriarchal expectations, Laishun completely breaks the mold: Rejecting Toxic Traditions : When an unreasonable...

《给阿嬷的情书》最让我难忘的三个画面

**《给阿嬷的情书》最让我难忘的三个画面** 也是《爱的智慧》最深刻的启发 每个人看完《给阿嬷的情书》,心里都会留下不同的感动。 而最让我难忘的,有三个画面。 1. 电影结尾:做人要有情有义 电影最后,阿嬷对孙子说:**“做人要有情有义。”** 她没有叫孙子努力赚钱。没有叫孙子追求名利。 她只是告诉他:有情有义,自然会有人帮助你。 这句话让我感触很深。 因为我相信:好人,会吸引更多好人。 善良,会吸引更多善良。 信任,会吸引更多信任。 机会,也会因为你的品格而来到你身边。 很多人一生都在追逐金钱。但电影告诉我们,真正值得追求的,是情义。 因为有了情义,财富自然会跟着来。 所以我常说:**情义,就是金钱。** **爱的智慧,就是财富。** 2. 郑木生:平凡人的伟大 木生选择了一个很少人愿意做的工作——三轮车夫。 每天辛苦工作到深夜,省吃俭用,只为了寄更多的钱回中国给家人。 他没有抱怨。没有炫耀。没有要求别人知道他的付出。 看到这一幕,我想到天下无数的丈夫和父亲。 他们每天努力工作,舍不得花钱在自己身上,却愿意把最好的留给家人。 他们或许默默无名,却撑起了一个家庭。 我认为, **这才是真正的伟大。** 真正的爱,不是说了多少甜言蜜语。 而是默默承担,默默付出。 3. 木生的离开,留下永恒的影响 木生的离世,没有轰轰烈烈。没有刻意煽情。 生命,就这样安静地结束了。 可是,他的精神却一直留了下来。 因为他推广华文教育,泰国有许多学校以他的名字命名。 他从来没有想过要留下什么传奇。 他只是一直做自己认为对的事。 这让我明白, **每个人都会留下自己的遗产。** 不一定是财富。也不一定是名声。 而是你帮助过多少人,影响过多少生命,留下多少善意。 真正的遗产,不是在生命结束时才开始。 而是在我们每天的言行中,一点一滴累积出来。 那你呢?《给阿嬷的情书》最打动你的画面是什么? 哪一句台词,哪一个镜头,让你久久不能忘记? 它又让你想起了人生中的什么? 欢迎和我分享。因为,每个人看到的是同一部电影,感受到的,却是自己的人生。 而这,正是《给阿嬷的情书》最大的魔力。 它讲的,从来不是别人的故事。 它讲的,一直都是我们的故事。

Greatness of an Ordinary Man: Musheng

My 3 Most Memorable Moments from movie  Dear You And What They Taught Me About Love Intelligence Every person walks away from Dear You with different memories. These are mine. 1. The Ending: "Be a Person of Qing Yi (情义)." The final scene touched me the most. Grandma did not tell her grandson to become rich.  She did not tell him to become famous. She simply said: "做人要有情有义。" She explained that when you have Qing Yi , people will naturally help you. That, to me, is one of the most profound life lessons. When you become a good person, goodness attracts goodness. When you care for others, people care for you. When you build trust, opportunities come naturally. Many people chase money. But perhaps money is not something we chase. Perhaps it is something that follows people with Qing Yi. That is why I often say: Qing Yi is Money. And Love Intelligence is Wealth. 2. Mu Sheng: The Greatness of an Ordinary Man Mu Sheng chose one of the toughest jobs: a trishaw rider. He wor...

Why Smart Leaders Fail in the AI Era: How Yijing Can Help

Why Smart Leaders Fail in the AI Era And How Yijing Leadership & Management Can Help Artificial Intelligence is changing business faster than any technology in history. Yet something surprising is happening.  Some of the smartest leaders are struggling. Not because they lack intelligence.  But because intelligence alone is no longer enough. For decades, leadership was built on knowledge, analysis and experience. Today, AI can analyse faster.  AI remembers more.  AI writes better reports.  AI generates strategies in seconds. If leadership is only about information, AI will always win. So what makes a leader irreplaceable? The answer may have been written over 7,000 years ago. Yijing. The Book of Changes is not a book about predicting the future. It is a book about understanding change.  And change is exactly what every leader faces today. 1. Oneness – Lead with Purpose Many organisations have AI strategies.  Very few have human st...

Why Leaders Fail in the AI Era

Why Leaders Fail in the AI Era Sun Tzu Had the Answer 2,500 Years Ago. Everyone is talking about AI. Few are talking about leadership. Ironically, AI isn't exposing a technology gap. It's exposing a leadership gap . Many leaders believe their job is to: Give instructions. Solve problems. Make decisions. Monitor performance. AI can now do much of that faster than humans. So what remains uniquely human? Sun Tzu answered this 2,500 years ago. He placed Dao (道):  shared purpose and alignment: as the first principle of leadership. People don't give their best because they're managed. They give their best because they believe. Today's organizations don't suffer from a lack of information. They suffer from: Too little trust. Too little alignment. Too much internal competition. Too many leaders trying to control instead of inspire. Sun Tzu's highest strategy was never to fight harder. It was to win without fighting . That means creating such trust, clarity, and comm...

给阿嬷的情书 的高价值人生观

给阿嬷的情书 的高价值人生观: 越稀缺,越珍贵;越珍贵,越值得拥有 什么东西最有价值? 经济学告诉我们: **稀缺、被需要、能满足人的深层需求。** 《给阿嬷的情书》之所以成为现象级电影, 正是因为它唤醒了这个时代越来越稀缺的人生价值。 这些价值,不只是电影里的故事,更是人生最宝贵的财富。 ## **一、等待的价值** 那个年代,一封信寄出去,可能要等上几个月才收到回信。 等待,不是浪费时间。 等待,是一种信任。 是一种耐心。 更是一种对爱的信心。 今天,我们习惯即时回复、即时满足、即时成功。却忘了, 人生许多最好的结果,都来自愿意等待的人。 投资如此。 事业如此。 爱情也是如此。 《爱的智慧》(LQ)告诉我们: **勇气,不只是敢行动。** **更是懂得等待最好的时机。** ## **二、顺流而行的价值** 兰芝并没有刻意规划自己的人生。 她只是顺着生命的安排,继续替木生写信给淑柔。 没有抱怨。没有抗拒。没有计算。 只是顺着自己的心,把该做的事情做好。 人生很多时候,不是事事都要控制。 而是学会顺势而为。 当我们跟随内心的善意,生命往往会带领我们走向更大的意义。 《爱的智慧》提醒我们: **连接自己的心,顺着正确的方向前行。** ## **三、不记得的价值** 电影里最令人感动的,是兰芝后来几乎忘记了自己做过的一切。 她没有记功。没有期待感谢。没有要求回报。 她只是一直做,因为她觉得应该做。 正因为如此,她的付出才显得如此珍贵。 真正的关爱,从来不是为了交换。 真正的善良,从来不会记账。 《爱的智慧》告诉我们: **关爱,因为这是你的品格。** **不是因为别人会回报你。** 当快乐来自付出的过程,就不需要计算付出了多少。 ## **为什么这些价值越来越珍贵?** 等待。顺流而行。付出而不计较。 这些看似平凡的品质,却正是今天最稀缺的东西。 而越稀缺,越有价值。 也许,这就是《阿嬷的情书》感动千万人的原因。 它不是让我们怀念过去。 而是提醒我们,那些我们以为已经失去的价值,其实正是我们内心最渴望拥有的东西。 而这三种高价值人生观, 也正是《爱的智慧》(LQ)的体现。 **关爱(Care),付出而不求回报。** **勇气(Courage),懂得等待,也敢于坚持。** **连接(Connection),顺着真心,与人建立真实而长久的关系。** 真正的财富,不只是金钱。...

High-Value Dear You Values

  Why the Values in Dear You Are More Precious Than Ever Something becomes valuable when it is scarce , highly sought after , and meets a deep human need . That is precisely why Dear You has become such a phenomenon. It reminds us of values that are becoming increasingly rare in today's fast-paced world. These are not just movie values.   They are high-value life values . 1. The Value of Waiting In the days of handwritten letters, every reply took weeks or even months. Waiting was part of loving.  Waiting required patience and  trust. Waiting required confidence that the relationship was worth investing in. Today, we expect instant replies, instant results and instant success. Yet some of life's greatest rewards still belong to those who know how to wait. In investing, waiting for the right opportunity often creates greater returns than constant action. Love Intelligence teaches us that courage is not only knowing when to act. It is also knowing when to wait. ...

《给阿嬷的情书》的五大效应

一部平凡的电影,道出了不平凡的人生智慧 《给阿嬷的情书》之所以感动千万观众,不是因为它有多精彩的剧情。 而是因为它让我们重新看见了自己。 它告诉我们的,其实只有一件事: 做真实的自己,做一个有情有义的人。 而这,正是《爱的智慧》(LQ)的核心。 第一效应:我们寻找金钱,却找到了情义。 孙子2018年小伟来到泰国,本来是为了找钱。 最后找到的,却是情义。 金钱可以满足一时的需要, 情义却能滋养一辈子。 因为情义带来信任, 信任带来机会, 机会创造财富。 所以我常说: 情义,就是金钱。 爱的智慧,就是财富。 第二效应:克制,是最深的爱。 电影里的爱,没有轰轰烈烈。 没有山盟海誓。 真正令人感动的, 是克制。 因为爱,所以尊重。 因为爱,所以等待。 因为爱,所以默默守护。 真正长久的关系, 靠的不是激情, 而是克制。 第三效应:没有资源,也能创造奇迹。 没有明星。 没有名导演。 没有大预算。 没有专业演员。 没有铺天盖地的宣传。 却创造了现象级的成功。 它告诉我们: 真正决定成功的,不是资源,而是真实。 真实,比名气更有力量。 真诚,比技巧更能打动人心。 第四效应:平凡的人生,也可以很伟大。 现实生活没有那么多高潮起伏。 我们不会天天大哭大笑。 更多的时候, 我们默默工作, 默默照顾家人, 默默承担责任。 遇到困难, 调整自己; 坚持原则, 继续前行。 人生,就是这样一天一天走出来的。 而真正伟大的, 正是这些平凡的人。 第五效应:真、善、美,本来就在我们心里。 导演说, 《给阿嬷的情书》讲的是: 真、善、美。 其实, 每个人心里都有真善美。 真实,让别人相信你。 善良与情义,让别人信任你。 美好的人性,让别人愿意与你建立长久的连接。 我们不是没有真善美, 只是太久没有把它活出来。 《给阿嬷的情书》真正讲的,其实只有一句话: 做真实的自己。 做一个有情有义的人。 用关爱去温暖别人, 用勇气去坚持对的事, 用连接去建立一生的信任。 这就是《爱的智慧》(LQ)。 也是《给阿嬷的情书》留给这个时代最珍贵的礼物。 在AI越来越聪明的时代, 真正让我们与众不同的, 不是更高的智商, 不是更多的财富, 而是依然能够活出: 真、善、美。 有情、有义。 关爱、勇气、连接。 因为, 这才是真正的人。