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How to Really Help Others and not Harm Them

We all have kind hearts, and when we see someone that we care about, we cannot help but help them.  Such compassion is a virtuous quality for having the intention to help people, even though we know that there may not be any rewards for us, direct or indirect. But we know that sometimes our help end up harming people. This is because we make them become over-dependent on us and lose their innate ability to solve their own problems.  Other than that, we often treat the symptoms of their problems and not the root cause, and this may worsen the problem.  So to really help others, we need to show them how to recognize and overcome the root cause of their problem , which is their self-centred ignorance .  This requires us to overcome our own self-centred ignorance.   Then, to inspire people to abandon their habitual self-destructive behaviour, we must be able to communicate with them. And to communicate with them, we must meet them at their own level .  ...

Say Yes to Love in the Office Without Getting Into Trouble

Everyone talks about the importance of love, but most people mistakenly equate love to personal affection, i.e. the kind of love when people are in a relationship of love or romance.  We know that true love is one that is more than that.  Love is defined as a Strong Positive Emotion that's Warm, Uplifting, Endearing and Inspiring .  Love is unconditional and non possessive. Love knows no boundaries, language, race or religion.  Love of course is a verb and not a noun. Ultimately you must feel love in order to understand love.  To do that, you need to be connected to people. There are 4 types of love that we teach in our courses: Loving-kindness, Compassion, Appreciative Joy and Equanimity . 1. Loving-kindness This is the most sincere type of love, the tenderness and consideration towards others.  Its opposite is Anger. However, many people mistaken Loving-kindness to be Affection.  You express loving kindness when you are kind to others...