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Love Intelligence and the 5 Love Languages: When Love Is Not Just Felt — But Applied Wisely Many leaders admire The 5 Love Languages because it gave language to something people felt but could not explain: love is not one-size-fits-all. Some people feel loved through words.   Others through time.  Others through action, gifts, or touch. What Dr. Gary Chapman did brilliantly was this: he showed that misunderstood love creates distance, even when intentions are good. Love Intelligence (LQ) does not replace the 5 Love Languages. It activates them intelligently, especially in complex environments like leadership, sales, and modern families. Because knowing the language is one thing. Knowing when, how, and why to speak it is another. That is where Love Intelligence comes in. The Missing Layer: Intelligence Before Expression Many skeptics say: “I already know the 5 Love Languages. Why do I need another framework?” Here is the honest answer: People don’t fail at love because the...

Following yesterday's blog on 'The First Love Language at Work', here are the other 4 Love Languages per Dr Gary Chapman that we use in our management training : Words of Affirmation Quality Time Acts of Service Gifts  Touch Today we shall dwell on Quality Time Quality time is simply giving someone your undivided attention . It is a very obvious expression of love and no one in this world dislikes it. Quality time need not be quantity time, and Ken Blanchand said in the "One Minute Manager" book, all it takes is an EXTRA MINUTE of your time and that's quality time. When your staff talks to you, do you listen with your computer screen on? Focused Attention is another aspect of Quality Time. It is not we have to spend our time together moments gazing into each other's eyes. It means we are doing something together and that we are giving our full attention to each other. Incidentally, the activity that we do is not important. What's im...

From Dr Gary Chapman's best selling book "The Five Love Languages", many people tried to apply this relationship love concept in the workplace.  While many have met with success, some have found the ideas too complex to transfer them to the workplace effectively.  At Asia Trainers, we have, since 2006 in management and leadership courses, applied such concepts successfully.    Chapman's 5 Love Languages are as follows: Words of Affirmation Quality Time Acts of Service Gifts  Touch Chapman's book claims that this list of five love languages is exhaustive but we should not use the love languages that they like the most but rather the love languages that their loved ones can receive.  So in the workplace, which love language you use would depend on who you are dealing with.  Today I shall only talk about the first love language: Words of Affirmation .  Come back to our blog at www.andyngtrainer.blogspot.sg for the remaining 5 love l...