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A parent lied about an address to get a child into a “better” school. Why? Because of love? Yes. But also because of fear. Fear of losing out. Fear that “if I don’t do this, my child will fall behind.” This is where most people get it wrong. They think: “If I’m doing this for my child, it must be right.” But Love Intelligence is not just about intention. It is about alignment between care, courage, and truth . In this case: There is care (wanting the best for the child) But there is no courage (to accept the system, or find another path) And there is a break in integrity and connection (lying, bending rules) So this is not Love Intelligence at its highest. This is love mixed with fear . Real Love Intelligence would look different: It would ask: “What kind of example am I setting for my child?” “Am I teaching them to win… or to win at all costs?” “Will this decision make them stronger, or just more dependent on shortcuts?” Sometimes the hardest tr...

Love Intelligence is a practical and provocative guide to succeeding in a world where intelligence alone is no longer enough. The core idea is simple but powerful: Love Intelligence (LQ) defined through Care, Courage, and Connection (3Cs) is the missing link between intention and real-world results. While IQ helps you think and EQ helps you feel, LQ determines whether people trust you, follow you, and do business with you. The book argues that in an AI-driven world, where information is cheap and abundant, trust becomes the ultimate currency. And trust is built not through techniques, but through genuine care, the courage to act and speak truthfully, and the ability to create meaningful human connections. The author Andy Ng challenges the reader to rethink success: it is not about pushing harder, competing more, or mastering more tools. Instead, it is about aligning who you are with what you do. When LQ is applied, transactions become relationships, ideas turn into value, and value na...

We all want to become better. Stronger. Smarter. More successful. That is where SuperME Unleashed begins:  helping you move from survival… to your higher self. But here is the quiet truth many people don’t see: Becoming your SuperME is not the final destination. It is the beginning. Because when you truly grow, something changes inside you. You become more aware of others. More patient. More real. You stop proving. You start understanding. You stop competing. You start connecting. That is when Love Intelligence (LQ) is born. Not from theory. But from transformation. When you become your SuperME, you naturally begin to live with: Care — because you see people more clearly Courage — because you are no longer afraid to be real Connection — because you value relationships over ego So the journey is simple, but powerful: You don’t chase love first. You become someone who can give it. And when you do… Love is no longer something you look for. It becomes something you live. That is the re...

When there is no love, there is no life. A person may still be breathing, working, earning, and performing. But without love, that person is only existing, not truly living. That is why Love Intelligence matters. Because Love Intelligence is not just about love in a soft or romantic sense. It is made up of Care, Courage, and Connection . Without Care , people become cold. Without Courage , people become fearful. Without Connection , people become isolated. So when a person lacks Love Intelligence, they do not just lack love. They also lack the courage to speak, to act, to stand up, to forgive, to try again, and to live fully. Why? Because courage often comes from love. You fight because you love. You protect because you care. You speak because the relationship matters. You rise again because something in life is still worth living for. Without love, courage becomes weak. Without courage, life becomes small. So yes, this is the deeper truth: No love, no life. No Lo...

People say, Andy, you are a corporate speaker and trainer coach for over 29 yeas, why talk about love? Isn't this too soft and not relevant for business? That’s a fair question. I’ve heard it many times. “Andy, you’ve been a corporate speaker and trainer for nearly three decades. Why talk about love? Isn’t that too soft for business?” Let me answer directly. If love were just romance, emotion, or sentimentality, then yes, it would be irrelevant to business. But that is not what I mean by love. When I talk about Love Intelligence, I am talking about the disciplined ability to build trust, inspire courage, and create value through human alignment. Tell me, what business succeeds without trust? You can have strategy without trust. You can have technology without trust. You can even have funding without trust. But without trust, nothing sustains. Deals collapse. Teams fracture. Talents leave. Partnerships weaken. For 29 years in corporate training and leadership development,...

This book addresses three very real challenges: First: In the AI era, how do you remain irreplaceable? As technology grows stronger, human value no longer lies in “working faster,” but in the ability to influence, unite, and mobilize people. Love Intelligence is precisely the core capability that AI cannot replicate. Second: Why doesn’t effort always lead to reward? Many capable individuals remain stuck, not because of lack of skill, but because of relationships, trust, emotions, and timing. This book clearly explains that the true bottleneck is often not competence, but misapplied love, caring in the wrong way, at the wrong time, or without clarity. Third: How do you turn goodwill into results instead of exhaustion? Love Intelligence is not weakness. It is strength with boundaries, principles, and strategy. This book provides a clear framework that allows you to lead with warmth,  and still deliver measurable outcomes. If you care about: • Long-term career competitiven...

How Love Intelligence (LQ) Came About, and Why It Emerged in the AI Era Love Intelligence (LQ) did not begin as a concept. It emerged as a pattern, observed repeatedly over decades of work, teaching, and lived experience. After writing eight books on leadership, strategy, Yijing, and human development, including co-writing SuperME Unleashed with Dr Vivian Passion Koh, one truth became impossible to ignore: No matter how smart people were, how strategic they became, or how powerful their tools were, their outcomes were always limited by how they related to themselves and others. That limitation was not intellectual. It was human. The Invisible Thread Across 8 Books Across topics as diverse as: Sun Tzu’s Art of War Yijing decision-making leadership strategy wealth and influence purpose and inner mastery The same invisible thread kept appearing: People failed not because they lacked intelligence They failed because they lacked trust, courage, and connection People succeeded not because th...

What Connection Really Is — and Why It Is the Outcome of Love Intelligence In the previous two articles, we looked at Care and Courage. We saw that when you ask questions without care, your questions become stupid — not because of the words, but because people feel you are not truly interested. We also saw that courage without care often backfires. You may be honest, but people ignore you because the truth was delivered without safety. Now let’s look at the third C — Connection. Many people misunderstand connection. They think connection is about: how long they’ve known someone whether they worked together before family ties or blood relationships shared history or common background But we all know this is not true. You can be related by blood and still feel distant. You can work with someone for years and still feel disconnected. You can meet someone once and feel deeply understood. This tells us one thing: Connection has nothing to do with status, history, or proximity. What Connecti...

What Is Real Courage — and Why Courage Without Love Intelligence Breaks Relationships In the previous article , we examined what CARE truly means in Love Intelligence. We saw that when questions are asked without care, they become stupid questions, not because of the words, but because of the intention behind them. People feel it immediately, and they respond by ignoring you. Today, let’s talk about COURAGE. Many people misunderstand courage. They think courage means: speaking bluntly being brutally honest saying whatever is on their mind “telling it like it is” pushing through resistance That is not courage. That is ego disguised as bravery. Real courage is not loud. Real courage is anchored. Why Courage Without Love Intelligence Is Dangerous Courage without Love Intelligence often destroys relationships because it lacks care and awareness. You may be telling the truth, but: you ignore timing you ignore emotional readiness you ignore context you ignore the other person’s state And whe...

Why People Hate “Stupid Questions” — and What Love Intelligence Really Means People don’t hate questions. They hate thoughtless questions. A question becomes “stupid” not because of the words, but because of the intention behind it. One kind of stupid question is when you ask purely for confirmation — not to understand, not to explore, but simply to validate yourself. The other kind is when you ask without any consideration for the other person. For example, asking, “How’s your day?” or “How’s your job?” may sound caring on the surface. But people can feel your tone, timing, and intention immediately.  Are you genuinely interested, or are you just filling silence?  Are you present, or are you ticking a social box? Care is not about the question. Care is about whether the other person feels seen. This is why many people feel uncomfortable with “caring” questions. They mistake care for intimacy, or worse, intrusion. But the truth is simpler and deeper: Without care, there is not...

In my Love Intelligence talks, I always say this: Validate people. Appreciate people. Celebrate their achievements. And every time, someone will raise a hand and say, “Andy, how to appreciate? These people are doing everything wrong!” Let me explain something most leaders don’t realise. Love Intelligence is not about complimenting perfection. It is about energising potential. When someone is doing the wrong things, I don’t reward the mistake. I don’t praise the result. But I do appreciate the effort . Because imagine this: If you try your best, even though you didn’t get it right, and I say, “Thank you for trying. I see your effort,” what happens to you? Your energy rises. Your heart opens. You feel your hard work is worthwhile. You become willing to improve. That is the power of energy through love. Now imagine the opposite. You actually achieved something. You made progress. And instead of acknowledging it, I criticise you. I make sarcastic remarks. I downplay...

How to Convert from a “Reason-Only Manager” to a “Love-Driven-Reason Manager” A Reason-Only Manager focuses on logic, tasks, KPIs and processes. A Love-Driven-Reason Manager uses the same logic, but powered by care, courage and connection. Here is the exact path to shift from one to the other. Step 1: Shift the Intention Before every meeting, conversation or decision, ask one silent question: “How can I let this person feel safe and supported?” This turns your mindset from control → collaboration. Step 2: Look at the Person Before the Problem Reason-only managers jump straight into the issue. Love-driven managers take 30 seconds to: • acknowledge the person • check their state • build warmth This single step reduces resistance and opens cooperation. Step 3: Listen Without Preparing Your Reply Reason-only managers listen to respond. Love-driven managers listen to understand. This helps you catch root causes instead of fighting symptoms — saving time, mistakes, and co...

How Yijing Philosophy Connects to Love Intelligence Yijing teaches us that life expands when we become good , strong internally , and in harmony with nature . Love Intelligence teaches us to move through life with Care , Courage , and Connection . When we combine these two, something powerful happens: We stop forcing life. We start aligning with life. And we walk with a deeper inner authority that no one can take away. Yijing gives us the direction ; Love Intelligence gives us the energy to walk that direction. What Exact Steps Can We Do Today? 1. Be Good by Practising Care Goodness in Yijing is not about being “nice.” It’s about being aligned: your words, your actions, your intentions. Simple step to do today: Pause before replying to someone. Ask yourself: “Is my reply coming from care or from impatience?” Choose care. Even a small shift changes your qi and your relationships. 2. Be Strong Internally by Practising Courage Internal strength in Yijing comes from stab...

People hold on to old versions of us because it’s safer for them. It’s familiar. It doesn’t threaten their worldview. They see you where you were, not where you are. I get this all the time. People still ask me, “Andy, when is your next WeChat course?” They forgot that I’ve already moved on, expanded, grown, written new books, entered new spaces like Love Intelligence, Yijing leadership, and corporate transformation. At first, I felt frustrated. But later, I understood one thing: People are not resisting you. They are resisting the discomfort of updating their mental picture. That is where the 3Cs become so powerful. Care Care means we don’t fight their outdated perception. We don’t attack it. We understand that they only remember the version of us that once helped them. So I care enough to let them take time. Instead of saying, “I don’t do WeChat anymore,” I say, “Thank you for remembering that season of my work. Today my focus has shifted to Love Intelligence and leadership transform...

I didn’t learn love from books. I learned it from life. I learned it as a young trainer in 1996, when no one knew me and I struggled to survive. I learned it when a participant in our 3-days program in Mandarin in 2017 hugged me and said, “Andy, your training made me feel loved.” I learned it when a corporate client told me, “We follow your slides and get results.” I learned it when the people I coached transformed not because I pushed them, but because I truly cared for them. Through every season of my life, through failures, tough decisions, personal losses, and rebirth, I realized this: When I lead with fear, I lose. When I lead with love, I rise. Love gave me strength to build my speaking career. Love gave me clarity to write books. Love gave me courage to teach Love Intelligence, Yijing Leadership and Win Without Fighting with Sun Tzu Art of War in a scale seldom seen.