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What Connection Really Is — and Why It Is the Outcome of Love Intelligence In the previous two articles, we looked at Care and Courage. We saw that when you ask questions without care, your questions become stupid — not because of the words, but because people feel you are not truly interested. We also saw that courage without care often backfires. You may be honest, but people ignore you because the truth was delivered without safety. Now let’s look at the third C — Connection. Many people misunderstand connection. They think connection is about: how long they’ve known someone whether they worked together before family ties or blood relationships shared history or common background But we all know this is not true. You can be related by blood and still feel distant. You can work with someone for years and still feel disconnected. You can meet someone once and feel deeply understood. This tells us one thing: Connection has nothing to do with status, history, or proximity. What Connecti...

What Is Real Courage — and Why Courage Without Love Intelligence Breaks Relationships In the previous article , we examined what CARE truly means in Love Intelligence. We saw that when questions are asked without care, they become stupid questions, not because of the words, but because of the intention behind them. People feel it immediately, and they respond by ignoring you. Today, let’s talk about COURAGE. Many people misunderstand courage. They think courage means: speaking bluntly being brutally honest saying whatever is on their mind “telling it like it is” pushing through resistance That is not courage. That is ego disguised as bravery. Real courage is not loud. Real courage is anchored. Why Courage Without Love Intelligence Is Dangerous Courage without Love Intelligence often destroys relationships because it lacks care and awareness. You may be telling the truth, but: you ignore timing you ignore emotional readiness you ignore context you ignore the other person’s state And whe...

Why People Hate “Stupid Questions” — and What Love Intelligence Really Means People don’t hate questions. They hate thoughtless questions. A question becomes “stupid” not because of the words, but because of the intention behind it. One kind of stupid question is when you ask purely for confirmation — not to understand, not to explore, but simply to validate yourself. The other kind is when you ask without any consideration for the other person. For example, asking, “How’s your day?” or “How’s your job?” may sound caring on the surface. But people can feel your tone, timing, and intention immediately.  Are you genuinely interested, or are you just filling silence?  Are you present, or are you ticking a social box? Care is not about the question. Care is about whether the other person feels seen. This is why many people feel uncomfortable with “caring” questions. They mistake care for intimacy, or worse, intrusion. But the truth is simpler and deeper: Without care, there is not...

In my Love Intelligence talks, I always say this: Validate people. Appreciate people. Celebrate their achievements. And every time, someone will raise a hand and say, “Andy, how to appreciate? These people are doing everything wrong!” Let me explain something most leaders don’t realise. Love Intelligence is not about complimenting perfection. It is about energising potential. When someone is doing the wrong things, I don’t reward the mistake. I don’t praise the result. But I do appreciate the effort . Because imagine this: If you try your best, even though you didn’t get it right, and I say, “Thank you for trying. I see your effort,” what happens to you? Your energy rises. Your heart opens. You feel your hard work is worthwhile. You become willing to improve. That is the power of energy through love. Now imagine the opposite. You actually achieved something. You made progress. And instead of acknowledging it, I criticise you. I make sarcastic remarks. I downplay...

How to Convert from a “Reason-Only Manager” to a “Love-Driven-Reason Manager” A Reason-Only Manager focuses on logic, tasks, KPIs and processes. A Love-Driven-Reason Manager uses the same logic, but powered by care, courage and connection. Here is the exact path to shift from one to the other. Step 1: Shift the Intention Before every meeting, conversation or decision, ask one silent question: “How can I let this person feel safe and supported?” This turns your mindset from control → collaboration. Step 2: Look at the Person Before the Problem Reason-only managers jump straight into the issue. Love-driven managers take 30 seconds to: • acknowledge the person • check their state • build warmth This single step reduces resistance and opens cooperation. Step 3: Listen Without Preparing Your Reply Reason-only managers listen to respond. Love-driven managers listen to understand. This helps you catch root causes instead of fighting symptoms — saving time, mistakes, and co...

How Yijing Philosophy Connects to Love Intelligence Yijing teaches us that life expands when we become good , strong internally , and in harmony with nature . Love Intelligence teaches us to move through life with Care , Courage , and Connection . When we combine these two, something powerful happens: We stop forcing life. We start aligning with life. And we walk with a deeper inner authority that no one can take away. Yijing gives us the direction ; Love Intelligence gives us the energy to walk that direction. What Exact Steps Can We Do Today? 1. Be Good by Practising Care Goodness in Yijing is not about being “nice.” It’s about being aligned: your words, your actions, your intentions. Simple step to do today: Pause before replying to someone. Ask yourself: “Is my reply coming from care or from impatience?” Choose care. Even a small shift changes your qi and your relationships. 2. Be Strong Internally by Practising Courage Internal strength in Yijing comes from stab...

People hold on to old versions of us because it’s safer for them. It’s familiar. It doesn’t threaten their worldview. They see you where you were, not where you are. I get this all the time. People still ask me, “Andy, when is your next WeChat course?” They forgot that I’ve already moved on, expanded, grown, written new books, entered new spaces like Love Intelligence, Yijing leadership, and corporate transformation. At first, I felt frustrated. But later, I understood one thing: People are not resisting you. They are resisting the discomfort of updating their mental picture. That is where the 3Cs become so powerful. Care Care means we don’t fight their outdated perception. We don’t attack it. We understand that they only remember the version of us that once helped them. So I care enough to let them take time. Instead of saying, “I don’t do WeChat anymore,” I say, “Thank you for remembering that season of my work. Today my focus has shifted to Love Intelligence and leadership transform...

I didn’t learn love from books. I learned it from life. I learned it as a young trainer in 1996, when no one knew me and I struggled to survive. I learned it when a participant in our 3-days program in Mandarin in 2017 hugged me and said, “Andy, your training made me feel loved.” I learned it when a corporate client told me, “We follow your slides and get results.” I learned it when the people I coached transformed not because I pushed them, but because I truly cared for them. Through every season of my life, through failures, tough decisions, personal losses, and rebirth, I realized this: When I lead with fear, I lose. When I lead with love, I rise. Love gave me strength to build my speaking career. Love gave me clarity to write books. Love gave me courage to teach Love Intelligence, Yijing Leadership and Win Without Fighting with Sun Tzu Art of War in a scale seldom seen.

Most people spend their entire lives chasing money, success, or meaning the hard way.  But everything becomes easier when you understand Love Intelligence (LQ): the ability to use love as your competitive advantage. Love builds real trust, trust creates real value, and money always follows value.  In this powerful book, Andy Ng teaches how to use LQ to make better decisions, multiply ideas, build wealth, lead teams, and turn conflict into profit with ease.  Discover how Love Intelligence will transform the way you work, lead and live.  

LOVE INTELLIGENCE (LQ) Unlock the Power of Love to Build Your Wealth, Business, Career, and Life By Andy Ng What if the most powerful force for success is not money, intelligence, or strategy… but love? For 29 years, corporate trainer and speaker Andy Ng has coached leaders, executives, entrepreneurs, and teams across Asia. After working with more than 300 organizations, he discovered a surprising truth: Love is the engine behind trust. Trust is the engine behind value. And value is the engine behind wealth. When you understand how to use love—not romance, but Love Intelligence (LQ) —your decisions become clearer, your leadership becomes stronger, your influence grows deeper, and your results accelerate faster. ❤️ What is Love Intelligence (LQ)? LQ is the ability to use love as a strategic advantage in business and life. It is the missing skill that top leaders and high-performers use to: ✓ Build trust quickly ✓ Lead people without force ✓ Make decisions without fear ✓...

The idea of “Love Intelligence” (LQ) — meaning the capacity to lead, teach, and influence from a place of genuine care, alignment and deeper connection — is powerful for speakers and trainers. Below I explore how LQ can be a force to be reckoned with in the speaking/training world, grounded in research, practical implications, and some blunt realities. Why LQ matters When leaders bring love as intelligent action,  not soft-fluff but real care, listening, empathy, teams perform better, trust builds, and engagement deepens. Research shows that leadership which includes genuine concern for people’s well-being creates psychological safety and innovation. Cultivating Leadership +1 Training that centres on heart as well as head helps participants go beyond mechanics. For a speaker/trainer, moving someone’s mindset and state of being yields deeper transformation (and more word-of-mouth). In our age of commoditised content, people crave authenticity. Love-based engagement (a...