My Discovery of Love Intelligence

I didn’t learn love from books. I learned it from life.

I learned it as a young trainer in 1996, when no one knew me and I struggled to survive.

I learned it when a participant in our 3-days program in Mandarin in 2017 hugged me and said, “Andy, your training made me feel loved.”

I learned it when a corporate client told me, “We follow your slides and get results.”

I learned it when the people I coached transformed not because I pushed them, but because I truly cared for them.

Through every season of my life, through failures, tough decisions, personal losses, and rebirth, I realized this:
When I lead with fear, I lose.
When I lead with love, I rise.

Love gave me strength to build my speaking career.
Love gave me clarity to write books.
Love gave me courage to teach Love Intelligence, Yijing Leadership and Win Without Fighting with Sun Tzu Art of War in a scale seldom seen.

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