Narrowing the Mind vs Broadening the Mind Training

There are 2 types of training in this world: Narrowing the Mind and Broadening the Mind Training.

Type 1: Narrowing the Mind Training

This type of training narrows the mind; that is, the mind becomes narrower after the training. By 'mind' here I mean the thinking, both conscious and non-conscious.

Narrowing the Mind Training, instead of letting the trainee know what the possibilities are, restricts him to fewer possibilities. For example, some corporate trainers teach people only a certain fixed way of doing things and disregard other schools of thought.

They are dogmatic and usually claim to be 'gurus' or some form of special intellectual people. In my opinion, these people are 'sukus', not gurus. ('Suku' is a Malay word for stupid)

Type 2: Broadening the Mind Training

Many trainees don't like this type of training, for they are given so many possibilities and everything is okay. Some will ask for model answers.

Most institutions of higher learning do this. I do this for some trainings, eg How to Wake People Up with Love, and Peaceful Warrior Strategies.

From my humble 29 years of training experience, the most effective way to broaden one's mind is to give love to you. By love, I mean the 3Cs:
1. Care: I care for his thoughts, that's why I let him share his thoughts, with no judge of right or wrong
2. Courage: I encourage him to be courageous in his thinking
3. Connection: I guide to let him see the connections of his new broader thinking to what's happening now. For some, I get them to do a video recording of their new thought at this moment.

At the end of the day, I need to earn a living. I need to have a mix of both narrowrering and broadening of minds training. What do you think? Share me your thoughts.

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