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Why People Hate “Stupid Questions” — and What Love Intelligence Really Means People don’t hate questions. They hate thoughtless questions. A question becomes “stupid” not because of the words, but because of the intention behind it. One kind of stupid question is when you ask purely for confirmation — not to understand, not to explore, but simply to validate yourself. The other kind is when you ask without any consideration for the other person. For example, asking, “How’s your day?” or “How’s your job?” may sound caring on the surface. But people can feel your tone, timing, and intention immediately.  Are you genuinely interested, or are you just filling silence?  Are you present, or are you ticking a social box? Care is not about the question. Care is about whether the other person feels seen. This is why many people feel uncomfortable with “caring” questions. They mistake care for intimacy, or worse, intrusion. But the truth is simpler and deeper: Without care, there is not...