When people like you because you are a nice person, there is a hidden danger that few notice. People may smile at you, praise you, and treat you gently — but they will not tell you the truth. They won’t correct you when you make mistakes. They won’t give you tough advice. They won’t point out the blind spots you urgently need to see. Their kindness becomes a cushion that hides reality. This is exactly what both Yijing (易经) and The Art of War warn us about. Yijing teaches that everything carries two sides. When something appears very good on the surface, its opposite energy is forming underneath. Extreme softness becomes weakness. Extreme “niceness” becomes danger. Sun Tzu echoes the same principle. He says a wise general must care for his soldiers — but because he truly cares, he dares to discipline them. He dares to point out faults. He dares to enforce standards. He dares to say what others don’t dare to say. Why? Because real care requires courage. That is why being loved by everyon...
by Andy Ng at www.asiatrainers.com (Sales & Management Training) Tel: 65-93672286 Email: andythecoach@gmail.com