What To Do in the Cycle of Fortune and Misfortune

According to the wisdom of the I Ching, life constantly moves through a cycle:

吉 → 吝 → 凶 → 悔 → 吉

Success → Regret → Failure → Repentance → Success

Success and failure are not permanent.
They transform into each other.

What determines our long-term success is how we behave at each stage.

This is where Love Intelligence becomes the compass.

Stage 1 — 吉 (Success)

Risk: Ego and complacency

When things go well, people may become arrogant, careless and disconnected from others

Love Intelligence Response: Stay humble. Stay grateful. Share credit.

LQ principle:
Success should deepen relationships, not inflate ego.

Stage 2 — 吝 (Regret, Warning Signs)

Risk: Ignoring small problems

At this stage, warning signals appear: tension in relationships, small mistakes, declining trust

Love Intelligence Response: Listen. Accept feedback. Adjust early.

LQ principle:
Love notices disharmony early.

Stage 3 — 凶 (Failure, Crisis)

Risk: Fear, blame, and conflict

When difficulties appear, people often react with anger, blame, panic. These reactions make problems worse.

Love Intelligence Response: Face reality calmly. Take responsibility. Protect trust and relationships.

LQ principle:
Crisis reveals character.

Stage 4 — 悔 (Repentance)

Risk: Regret without learning

After mistakes, people may stay trapped in guilt or blame.

Love Intelligence Response: Repent, Reflect honestly. Forgive yourself and others. Transform mistakes into wisdom.

LQ principle:
Repentance becomes growth.

Return to 吉 (Renewed Success)

Through reflection and correction, the cycle returns to success.

But now success is deeper and wiser.

The Big Insight

Love Intelligence does not stop the cycle. The cycle will always exist.

But Love Intelligence keeps your inner energy stable while the external world changes.

Without Love Intelligence

success creates arrogance and failure creates bitterness.

With Love Intelligence
success creates gratitude and failure creates wisdom.

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