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The Rubber meets the Road: How to Win Without Fighting?

Applying Sun Tzu Win Without Fighting for Your Real Life Cases:  

1. Hard to find a good tutor for your child

Sun Tzu Strategy: “Know the terrain, use spies, and win by positioning.”

Win Without Fighting Response:

  • Map the landscape: Go beyond tuition centres. Leverage your network (e.g., school teachers, parents' WhatsApp groups).

  • Use ‘spies’: Ask parents of high-performing students for referrals. They’re your ‘intelligence agents.’

  • Change battleground: Instead of chasing popular tutors, find niche or less-known ones who specialize in your child’s specific needs.

  • Position wisely: If the right tutor is hard to find, maybe your child needs a coach, not a tutor — or a learning buddy system.

💡 Key Principle: “Win the war before it is fought — by preparation and information.”

2. Samsung phone is the best, just need to bring big powerbank and armoured casing to protect it

Sun Tzu Strategy: “Use strengths, cover weaknesses, and adapt to conditions.”

Win Without Fighting Response:  Consider non-Samsung phones

3. Despite being the lowest, we still lose the tender. How?

Sun Tzu Strategy: “Victory is not always to the strongest, but to the most aligned with the decision-maker’s heart.”

Win Without Fighting Response:

  • The lowest price doesn’t win — the best positioning does.

  • Ask:

    • Did you understand the buyer’s true needs (beyond price)?

    • Did you build trust before the bid? (Sun Tzu: “Waging war depends on relationships”)

    • Are you perceived as reliable or just cheap?

💡 Next move:

  • Conduct a “Tender Terrain Diagnosis” — why did the client choose the winner?

  • Position better before the next tender: build rapport, create early influence, and be the unseen favorite.

💡 Key Principle: “Do not rely on price. Rely on perception and position.”


4. The market is crowded with AI speakers and trainers

Sun Tzu Strategy: “Avoid the strong, strike the weak. Attack where the enemy is unprepared.”

Win Without Fighting Response:

  • Don’t compete head-on. Differentiate deeply:

    • Combine AI with Yijing (or Sun Tzu, SuperME, PLG)

    • Focus on results, not features: “I don’t teach AI. I teach how AI makes you more trusted.”

  • Create your own category: e.g., “Heart-Based AI Trainer” or “Strategic AI with Chinese Wisdom”

Key Principle: “Be formless — adapt to the market. Let others fight the crowd; you change the terrain.”


5. Sustainability starts from ourselves: cut down on waste

Sun Tzu Strategy: “Victory comes from discipline, not impulse.”

Win Without Fighting Response:

  • Don’t impose or moralize — model the change quietly but consistently.

  • Inspire through results: “I cut waste and saved $X.” That’s more persuasive than lectures.

  • Use PLG (Purpose, Love, Gratitude) to motivate:

    • Purpose: I act for my children’s future.

    • Love: I care for what I consume.

    • Gratitude: I treasure every resource I have.

💡 Key Principle: “The disciplined general wins. Self-mastery precedes world mastery.”

Final Takeaway: Sun Tzu in Modern Life

ChallengeSun Tzu StrategyWin Without Fighting Approach
Can’t find a tutorUse spies, map terrainSeek referrals, shift tactics
Samsung’s flawsStrengthen weak pointsConsider non-Samsung
Lost tender despite low priceKnow buyer’s heartInfluence before battle
AI market is crowdedDon’t fight head-onChange the category
SustainabilityPractice self-disciplineLead by example, not force

Next Win Without Fighting course is on 15 Dec 2025 Monday, details at https://asiatrainers.org/wwf

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