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How Love Intelligence (LQ) Came About, and Why It Emerged in the AI Era

Love Intelligence (LQ) did not begin as a concept.

It emerged as a pattern, observed repeatedly over decades of work, teaching, and lived experience.

After writing eight books on leadership, strategy, Yijing, and human development, including co-writing SuperME Unleashed with Dr Vivian Passion Koh, one truth became impossible to ignore:

No matter how smart people were, how strategic they became, or how powerful their tools were, their outcomes were always limited by how they related to themselves and others.

That limitation was not intellectual.

It was human.

The Invisible Thread Across 8 Books

Across topics as diverse as:

  • Sun Tzu’s Art of War
  • Yijing decision-making
  • leadership strategy
  • wealth and influence
  • purpose and inner mastery

The same invisible thread kept appearing:

People failed not because they lacked intelligence

They failed because they lacked trust, courage, and connection

People succeeded not because they had perfect plans

They succeeded because others trusted them, followed them, and stood with them

This was true in business.

True in leadership.

True in relationships.

True in personal life.


Yet there was no single language to describe this capability.

That gap became Love Intelligence (LQ).


Why LQ Only Became Obvious in the AI Era

Before AI, intelligence still looked rare.

Knowledge still felt powerful.

Expertise still commanded respect.


Then AI arrived.

Suddenly:

  • anyone could generate reports
  • anyone could sound intelligent
  • anyone could analyse data
  • anyone could “think”

And something shocking happened.

People started asking:

  • “Why does everyone sound smart, but nothing feels trustworthy?”
  • “Why do I feel more efficient, yet more disconnected?”
  • “Why does leadership feel harder, not easier?”

That is when Love Intelligence became talked about everywhere AI was used.

Because AI exposed a hard truth:

When intelligence becomes cheap, humanity becomes valuable.


What LQ Really Is (And Why People Talk About It)

Love Intelligence is not about romance.

It is not emotional softness.

It is not positivity.


LQ is the human operating system that governs:

  • how trust is built
  • how courage is expressed
  • how connection is sustained

It is distilled into three trainable capacities:

  • Care — the ability to create psychological safety and trust
  • Courage — the strength to do what is right, not what is easy
  • Connection — the skill of aligning hearts, minds, and action


When people start using AI tools, they quickly realise:

AI gives answers

AI does not give judgement

AI gives speed

AI does not give trust

That gap is where LQ lives.


Why LQ Became a Natural Next Step After SuperME

SuperME Unleashed focused on inner mastery — purpose, love, gratitude, and meaning.

LQ became the external expression of that mastery.

If SuperME answers:

“Who must I become?”

Then Love Intelligence answers:

“How do I relate, lead, decide, and act in a world of machines?”


This is why people often discover LQ only after:

  • learning AI tools
  • facing leadership breakdown
  • experiencing burnout
  • struggling with trust
  • realising skills alone are no longer enough


They feel the gap before they can name it.

LQ gives that gap a language.


Why Love Intelligence Is Now a Talked-About Topic

Love Intelligence is being discussed because it addresses a modern paradox:

We are more intelligent than ever

Yet trust is at an all-time low

We are more connected digitally

Yet more disconnected emotionally

AI accelerated this paradox.

LQ resolves it.


That is why whenever people seriously engage with AI, the conversation eventually turns to: ethics, trust, leadership, courage, humanity


In other words: Love Intelligence.

The Quiet Truth Behind LQ

Love Intelligence did not come from theory.

It came from:

  • decades of observing people under pressure
  • watching what survives change
  • seeing what AI can never replace
  • and understanding that human evolution now depends on how we relate, not how fast we compute

That is why LQ did not appear earlier.

The world was not ready.

The AI era made it unavoidable.

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