Just like you, I like to talk reason to others when I find that they have got the wrong ideas. This could be due to my vocation as a trainer, coach and consultant.
I reason with people on a daily basis on many things, it could be as simple as pressing the lift bell, wearing masks correctly and how to avoid catching COVID.
But we know that there are at least 8 situations when you simply cannot reason with others. In fact, these situations are very common and when you don't reason with others, you'll find that you guys can connect better.
You don't have to agree with them. You can stick to your own beliefs and reasons. But never talk reason with them. The 8 situations to NOT Talk Reason are:
1. Reasoning with Your Boss and Customer, especially when he is Adamant
Unless your boss is committing a crime, there is no point in trying to convince him with reason or logic. Reason: the boss is always right. Just state your point and say, "for your consideration please".
2. Talking logic or sense to your Spouse, Partner or Fiance. Talk love, not reason. They are always right, in their own way.
3. In Settling Disputes, talk law, not reason. This is a quick and effective way to resolve disputes. Never talk about fairness or being kind and considerate. Just talk about how the law interprets the disputes and you'll settle the dispute once and for all instantly.
4. When the other person is very angry, never reason, instead empathize or best, leave them alone. Equanimity is the best recourse.
5. When you are doing very well, rich and famous and the world revolves around you. In this situation, you will be arrogant and feel like the whole world is wrong except you.
6. When you are angry, in a hurry or not in the right state of mind. In this case, your reasons are not reasons but simply preferences or biases.
7. When you are Down and Out and have no money no honey and no career success. You have to lower yourself and never talk reason, for no one will listen to you at all.
8. Dealing with Obstinate people (people who are very stubborn) and people with unsound mind. Don't join him to become a fool, and don't make a fool of yourself or others by talking reason. Like some of my customers insist that the COVID vaccination kills more than prevents serious illness, no point to talk reason with them. Just let them be.
What other situations do you encounter? Share with me your thought. Join me in this Saturday's FREE Zoom seminar 2 to 4 pm on Your Numbers Your Life. For details, click here or bit.ly/freetalkandy
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