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Know this and You'll Not Be Upset

Know this and You'll Not Be Upset

Think of what makes you upset.  When somebody says something about you that is not good (like criticism), you feel upset.  Yet when we give negative comments about others in social media or WhatsApp group chats, we don't feel upset and instead feel 'great'. 

It seems that it is all about me. Our minds get incredibly upset by anything that is not pleasant that happens to us or is related to us, including the slow train and lift. Yet we feel relieved when we managed to avoid a serious traffic jam. 

Our self-centredness causes us much misery  What is the fastest way to have no misery? Never think just about yourself.  Mother Theresa thinks of how to help as many sick people as possible, she never thinks about what others think of her.  

We know we can be happier and feel more successful without being so self-preoccupied.  Non-self is the way. 



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