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Making Resistance Work For You

Whenever we work on something important, something that is out of the ordinary, or something that is not our daily routine, we will encounter one and only thing - resistance. Regardless of how experienced or prepared you are, you will bump into this wall of resistance. With resistance all of a sudden your fire blows off and you are back to where you started - no progress. Sounds familiar?

 Many people hate resistance and think that resistance is the cause of their failure. 

 However, if you understand Yiqing, you'll know that resistance is a natural thing. Like a magnetized needle, resistance will unfailingly point to the north, meaning that calling or action it most wants us to stop doing. 

 That's why we can use this resistance as a compass. Instead of letting resistance stops us from achieving what we want, we can let resistance guide us to our calling or purpose. 

 Today I shall share with everyone the proven 8 ways to make resistance work for us:
  1. Don't think, act. Next to resistance, rational thought is another enemy that will paralyse us from achievement.  We can always revise and revisit once we've acted. Know that we can accomplish nothing until we act. That's why we should just act and not think at all. 
  2. Start something small and make it part of your daily routine. For example, if my daily routine is to switch on the TV, and there is resistance for me to start on my blog, I could still switch on my TV but tune to in to YouTube to get some ideas on my blog. 
  3. Let your unconscious do its work. Your unconscious mind does not know any logical thought, and since logical thought is the main contributor to resistance, we should only use our subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind only works base on emotions like love and kindness.  Tune in to this frequency
  4. Start at the end. Begin with the end in mind, and work backwards.  Screenwriters and teachers do that all the time, they know what they want to achieve and work on the steps to achieve it
  5. Set rewards for incremental progress. I like to get ready my drinks before I work on my blog, and once I have finished 500 words, I get rewarded with my favourite drinks. 
  6. Fill In the Gaps. Follow the blockbuster movie sequence. Start with a killer opening scene or theme. Then set two major set pieces in the middle. Next create a killer climax towards the end. Make sure your entire project has a clear theme or message.  Your job is just to fill in the gaps. 
  7. Suspend All Self-Judgment.  Never judge yourself while you are working on the project. Never bother about your progress or achievements. Know that as long as you never stop, you will get there. But the moment you stop and evaluate yourself, you'll find that you are rather silly and you'll stop immediately. This is what people say resistance take over. As Steve Jobs said, stay stupid. Follow your unconventional crazy heart. 
  8. Know that Ideas Do Not Come Linearly.  Ideas come according to their own logic. That logic is not rational. It's definitely not linear. We may get into the middle before we get into the end. We may get into the end before we even get the beginning. Don't resist it. This is natural. 
Our job is not to control our idea; our job is to figure out what our idea is (and wants to be) and then bring it into being. 

 Ladies and gentlemen, the next time you find yourself getting stuck or facing resistance, follow the above 8 steps and you'll achieve what you want. Happy achieving! 

 Written by Andy Ng, Chief Trainer Coach on topics including sales, leadership, Sun Tzu Art of War and  Self Mastery. Contact Andy at WhatsApp at 65-8201 4347 or visit www.asiatrainers.com now

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