Simple 3-Steps to Up Performance

No need to go for counseling or motivational talks, just follow these 3 proven steps and you can improve the performance of anyone in this world, including yourself:

1. Find good now. Regardless of how bad or good the performance is right now, say good things about it.

If currently, the performance is no good, say, "I feel that there is one more thing you want to do to be better, right? By having this thought you are already better than many people".

The will feel elevated that finally someone sees the good in him.

If he is doing well now, such praise is also welcomed

The key is to do this sincerely and not just go through the motion

2. Ask if there is anything new that the person is attempting. If none, say, "You are focused". If there is something new, say you look forward to it

3. End your communication with another praise, the time round can be more specific and use the magic phrase, "I believe in You"

The above has worked for myself and my coaching clients since I started doing full-time coaching and training in 2001. Try it!

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