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Thank you for Your Kind Words....(Are You Real?)

Thank you for Your Kind Words....(Are You Real?)

I have 2 Facebook accounts and 2 WeChat Accounts.  Combined, I have over 13K friends, plus another few thousand in WhatsApp groups, LinkedIn, etc.  

The common reply I get from my social media friends is "Thank you for your kind words".  

It seems that I never give negative comments, never criticize and seldom ask the question 'Why?"  Many times I am the only person commenting on their posts and the only one that praises them.  Some people asked me, Andy, are you real?  Why do you only praise and never criticize?

There are 5 reasons for my kind words

Firstly, people already know their weaknesses, so criticizing serves no purpose other than being annoying

Secondly, there are always 2 views: when I criticize, I could be wrong. But when I praise, I can never be wrong, simply because everyone loves praises

Third, when I criticize other people, I may attract in return criticisms in my posts.  So to protect myself, I don't criticize

Fourth, the purpose of social media is to get people like you.  So praise is the only way to go

Lastly and most importantly, I am a Coach. The job of a coach or any human is to elevate and validate people.  So I have to do nothing but praise


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