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Here are five common ways people hurt others without realizing it, explained in the SuperME spirit of awareness and compassion: 1. Careless Words A joke, a comparison, or a casual remark may seem harmless, but it can cut deeply into someone’s self-worth. 💡 SuperME response: Speak with love, not just honesty. 2. Silent Neglect Ignoring someone’s presence, effort, or feelings can hurt more than criticism. People long to be seen and valued. 💡 SuperME response: Acknowledge and appreciate often. 3. Unrealistic Expectations Pushing people to meet standards they cannot reach — even in the name of “motivation” — can leave them feeling inadequate. 💡 SuperME response: Encourage growth with compassion, not pressure. 4. Judgmental Assumptions Forming quick opinions about others’ choices, appearances, or struggles without understanding their story. 💡 SuperME response: Replace judgment with curiosity and gratitude. 5. Withholding Love and Gratitude Failing to express care, affection, or apprecia...

Yin and Yang in SuperME SuperME is about wholeness, and wholeness always carries both yin and yang. Yin in SuperME  Yin is the soft, receptive, nurturing side. In SuperME, this shows up as: Love: compassion, listening, empathy, care. Gratitude: receiving life as it comes, finding meaning even in hardship. Yin is what makes the SuperME gentle, grounded, and deeply human. Yang in SuperME  Yang is the active, purposeful, decisive side. In SuperME, this shows up as: Purpose: clarity of direction, taking action, creating impact. Love in action: not just feeling, but serving and expressing. Yang is what makes the SuperME bold, courageous, and transformational. The Balance When yin and yang are balanced, you don’t just “survive” — you thrive. Too much yang without yin → you burn out, become forceful, and lose connection. Too much yin without yang → you stay stuck, passive, and afraid to rise. SuperME is the harmony: Purpose (yang) + Love (yin & yang) + Gratitude (yin). This is wh...

Be yourself—everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde From a young age, we’re taught how to “perform”: -   Smile when you're sad -   Be polite, even when you're uncomfortable -   Succeed, even if it means suppressing your truth And we do it because: -   We want to belong -   We want to be safe -   We want to be loved But in the process… we forget how to be real. Why We Perform Performing is a survival mechanism. When we fear: -   Rejection -   Judgment -   Abandonment -   Or not being “enough” We create a version of ourselves that feels acceptable. The cost? Our authenticity. You may become loved for who you’re not … and wonder why you still feel unseen. The solution: Go back to yourself.  Be Authentic.  Be a SuperME, that's what you ARE, more at https://asiatrainers.org/smubook

Top 13 Ways to Appreciate & Amplify Someone (the SuperME Way)  1. Notice the Small Things – thank them for what most people overlook. 2. Speak Appreciation in the Moment – don’t wait for “the right time.” 3. Praise Effort, Not Just Results – value their process as much as the outcome. 4. Use Their Name Often – it’s the sweetest sound to the human ear. 5. Celebrate Uniqueness – highlight what makes them special, not what makes them “fit in.” 6. Give Public Recognition – lift them up in front of others with sincerity. 7. Write It Down – a handwritten note can touch deeper than a thousand spoken words. 8. Share Their Wins – amplify their achievements in your network or social media. 9. Be Specific – instead of “great job,” say “your calmness helped the team stay focused.” 10. Listen with Full Presence – true appreciation is in your attention, not just your words. 11. Express Gratitude for Who They Are, Not Just What They Do – affirm their being. 12. Offer Opportunities – sometimes...

How to Love People When You Are Not Yet a SuperME It’s true — when we are still in our Survival-Me, Small-Me, or Protector-Me, love can feel difficult. We may love only if others love us first. We may withhold love, fearing rejection. We may confuse love with attachment, control, or neediness. But here’s the truth: you don’t need to be fully SuperME to start loving. Love is not a distant destination. Love is a practice, a choice you can make today. Three simple ways to begin: 1. Start with kindness. Even a smile or listening ear is love in action. 2. Acknowledge the good. Gratitude shifts your energy and opens the heart. 3. Release perfection. You don’t need to “do love right.” Every small act of care counts. As you practice these, something shifts. Love stops being conditional. Love stops being about getting. Love becomes about being. And here’s the miracle: the more you love, even imperfectly, the closer you return to your SuperME.  Because at your core, you are love. You are not...

Ancient Meets Modern Yijing (I Ching): The classic Chinese system of change, balance, and inner wisdom. SuperME: Your authentic, awakened self—living with Purpose, Love, and Gratitude (PLG). What Yijing Would Tell SuperME "You are not here to conquer the world. You are here to align with it. To know yourself is to move with Qian (Universe) and Kun (Earth)." 1. On Purpose (道 Dao) Yijing says: “Your purpose is not found. It is revealed when you align with your true nature.” Hexagram 1 Qian (The Creative): You are born with a seed of greatness. Cultivate it through right action and noble character. Hexagram 24 Fu (Return): When you feel lost, return to your original intention. The Dao is not outside you—it is in your next step. SuperME Application: Your SuperME already has purpose. But the path unfolds as you stay aligned with your essence, not with the world’s noise. Don’t chase purpose. Become it. 2. On Love (仁 Ren) Yijing says: “Real power is not in force, but in resonance. L...

What Would Yijing Tell Sun Tzu About How to Fight in War? Sun Tzu’s Art of War is rooted in strategy, timing, and advantage, and Yijing would not contradict him—but rather deepen his view by embedding it within the natural cycles of change and energy. Yijing’s Message to Sun Tzu: “Victory is not won by strength alone but by alignment with Dao—the unseen flow of nature. Understand the timing (Tian 天), the terrain (Di 地), the people (Ren 人), and your own inner clarity (Xin 心). Act when Universe and Earth are aligned.” Wisdom in Hexagrams: Hexagram 2 Kun (Receptive): True power lies in stillness and timing, not aggression. Wait for the right moment to strike, as a tiger waits in the grass. Hexagram 23 Bo (Splitting Apart): Overreaching leads to collapse. Withdraw to preserve strength when the world is in decay. Hexagram 49 Ge (Revolution): Change must be timely and backed by moral clarity. Only act when your values align with the greater good. Yin-Yang Advice: “Let Yang prepare the army, ...

Why Would Anyone Love SuperME? Because SuperME is not about being perfect. SuperME is about being real, authentic, and whole. People love SuperME because: It makes them feel safe — no judgment, only presence. It makes them feel seen — not for their titles, but for their truth. It makes them feel uplifted — because Love is magnetic. SuperME doesn’t demand love. SuperME radiates love. And when you radiate, love always returns.  📖 That is why so many readers of SuperME Unleashed say: “This book doesn’t just teach me to love — it makes me feel loved.”  Be loved at https://asiatrainers.org/smubook

What Exactly is the Love Inside SuperME? The Love inside SuperME is not romance, not attachment, not infatuation. It is something deeper, more expansive, and more enduring: It is care and concern — seeing others not as tools or threats, but as fellow souls on their journey. It is compassion — being present with someone’s pain without needing to fix or judge. It is joy in others’ joy — celebrating when others rise, without envy. It is equanimity — the calm acceptance of life’s ups and downs, knowing nothing can shake your worth. This Love begins within. You love yourself first — not with indulgence, but with kindness. You stop attacking yourself for every mistake. You forgive. You breathe. You give yourself permission to grow. And when you live with this Love, it naturally flows outward — in your family, your work, your friendships, even with strangers.  Now you can have love at https://asiatrainers.org/smuamazon

Why Sun Zi Bing Fa is Art of War and Not 'War Methods'? When people hear The Art of War (孙子兵法), they usually think it is only about military strategy. But the phrase itself — “兵法” (Bing Fa) — means “the method, principle, or art of using forces.” The art inside the Art of War is not just about fighting battles; it is about mastering the invisible forces that determine victory without destruction. Here’s how the “art” reveals itself inside Sun Tzu’s writing: 1. The Art of Winning Without Fighting Sun Tzu said: “To subdue the enemy without fighting is the acme of skill.” The real art is in averting conflict by shaping perceptions, aligning strengths, and positioning yourself so that the other side yields naturally. This is why my book/course is aptly called 'Win Without Fighting with Sun Tzu Art of War', details at https://asiatrainers.org/wwfbook 2. The Art of Dao (The Way) Victory begins with alignment of purpose — when the people, the leader, and Heaven’s timing are un...

The Cure for Taking Things for Granted: SuperME with Purpose, Love & Gratitude The biggest issue in human relationships is this: 👉 People take things for granted. We forget to appreciate what others have done. We treat their efforts as routine, as if they were “supposed to do it.” This silent neglect erodes connection, breeds resentment, and makes even love feel empty. But when I discovered Purpose, Love, and Gratitude (PLG) through SuperME Unleashed, something shifted in me. Purpose reminded me that every interaction is an opportunity to create meaning, not just to transact. Love opened my eyes to the quiet sacrifices and unseen efforts others make daily. Gratitude became my greatest discovery — learning to be thankful for everything, especially the moments and services I never requested but still received. Now, I no longer take things for granted. Even as I write this article, I am grateful — grateful that these words can be broadcast across the internet, and grateful that you a...

 

Let’s map Sun Tzu’s Art of War 五要素 of Victory — 道 (Dao), 天 (Tian), 地 (Di), 将 (Jiang), 法 (Fa) — into SuperME model, which is grounded in Purpose, Love, Gratitude (PLG) and the distinction between SuperMe vs. Survival-Me. 1. Sun Tzu’s Five Elements of Victory 道 Dao (Way/Alignment): Shared purpose, values, and direction. 天 Tian (Heaven/Timing): Recognizing the right timing, cycles, and external conditions. 地 Di (Earth/Position): Resources, terrain, and environment. 将 Jiang (General/Leadership): Leadership quality — wisdom, trustworthiness, benevolence, courage, discipline. 法 Fa (Method/Discipline): Organization, systems, and execution. 2. How They Fit into SuperME  Think of it as SuperME = Internal Five Elements of Sun Tzu: Dao = Why I exist (Purpose) Tian = When I act (Gratitude for timing, patience, acceptance) Di = Where I stand (Love for people/environment, supportive networks) Jiang = Who I am (Identity of SuperMe leadership) Fa = How I do it (Disciplined PLG habits, execution fr...

Let’s explore Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People through the lens of SuperME Unleashed and PLG (Purpose, Love, Gratitude). ✅ Habit 1: Be Proactive Covey: Take responsibility for your life, don’t blame circumstances. SuperME: This is exactly moving from Survival-Me (fear, excuses, blame) to SuperME (ownership). Gratitude helps you see possibilities instead of problems. ✅ Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Covey: Live with purpose and vision. SuperME: Aligned perfectly. Purpose is the first energy of PLG — living by who you are, not by roles or titles. ✅ Habit 3: Put First Things First Covey: Prioritize what matters most. SuperME: Purpose guides choices, Love gives balance, Gratitude keeps perspective. You focus on impact, not noise. ✅ Habit 4: Think Win-Win Covey: Seek mutual benefit in relationships. SuperME: Love in action. A SuperME doesn’t compete out of fear but collaborates out of abundance. ✅ Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Covey: Empat...

Many people say we must work harder to be creative and innovative. But the truth is, creativity doesn’t come from pressure — it comes from alignment. When I return to my SuperME, I’m no longer bound by fear of judgment or failure. My mind opens, my heart relaxes, and new ideas flow naturally. Creativity and innovation become not forced tasks, but natural expressions of who I am. Here are three examples in the workplace: 1. Problem-Solving Meetings A team stuck in endless debate suddenly shifted when one member, living as SuperME, said: “Instead of proving who’s right, let’s focus on what serves the purpose.” That clarity turned conflict into collaboration — and a breakthrough idea emerged. 2. Product Development An employee guided by Survival-Me only follows trends. But when she returned to her SuperME, she asked: “What do our customers really love, need, and value?” That insight birthed an innovative product feature that competitors had overlooked. 3. Leadership Challenges A manager ...

The Collaboration Andy Ng is the author of Win Without Fighting with Sun Tzu Art of War. The book integrates his 29+ years of training experience, his expertise in Chinese classics like the Yijing, and his practical application of Sun Tzu’s strategies for leadership, business, and life. Dr. Vivian Passion Koh, Andy’s long-time strategic partner, collaborator, and PLG (Purpose, Love, Gratitude) ally, supported the project through: 1. Conceptual Influence – Her SuperME Unleashed framework (Purpose, Love, Gratitude) strongly complements Andy’s teachings. The book integrates PLG as part of the leadership philosophy — turning Sun Tzu’s ancient wisdom into a heart-centered modern practice. In his book, Andy devoted chapter 10 of 8 pages on 'Lead from your SuperME'.   2. Creative Support – Vivian’s encouragement, validation, and inspiration helped Andy refine and focus the book’s structure. She consistently reinforced the message that Sun Tzu’s wisdom is not about fighting battles b...

This book would not have reached its full depth and clarity without the support and inspiration of my long-time ally and collaborator, Dr. Vivian Passion Koh. Vivian and I have walked a powerful journey together, blending my passion for Sun Tzu’s Art of War and the Yijing with her life-transforming SuperME Unleashed framework of Purpose, Love, and Gratitude (PLG).  It is this synergy that allows the timeless strategies of Sun Tzu to be more than theory — they become a heart-centered practice that leaders and organizations can live out in their daily lives. Vivian’s relentless encouragement, her gift of validation, and her unwavering belief in me and my work gave me the strength to bring this book to life. She has always reminded me that winning without fighting begins within — with alignment, peace, and love. This book is as much a reflection of her influence as it is of my writing. I am deeply grateful to have such a partner on this journey of transforming lives through wisdom, st...

What Is SuperME Unleashed — and Why It Might Change Your Life  Imagine you’ve been living your whole life trying to meet expectations — from family, from work, even from  yourself.  You work hard, stay strong, and push through stress…  But deep inside, something still feels missing.  That “something” is You — the real, powerful you.  That’s what SuperME Unleashed is all about.    It’s Not Another Self-Help Book  It’s a guide to returning to your truest self — what the author Dr. Vivian Passion Koh calls your SuperME.  And what is your SuperME?  It’s the version of you that’s clear about your Purpose, full of Love, and rooted in Gratitude — no matter what’s  going on outside.  This book walks you through how to:  Stop living on autopilot or survival mode  Heal the conflict between the "you who protects" and the "you who wants to grow"  Make choices from clarity instead of fear  Find the courage to love y...

The collaboration between Dr. Vivian Passion Koh and Andy Ng on the SuperME Unleashed project has been nothing short of transformational — for both of them. For Vivian, who had long been journaling and refining the ideas of Purpose, Love, and Gratitude, this book gave her life’s work a powerful platform. Through Andy’s contributions, reflections, and stories, her framework became not just her personal philosophy, but a movement others could connect with. She gained the joy of seeing her inner voice become a collective voice that speaks to thousands. For Andy, already an accomplished trainer and author, this collaboration shifted him from being primarily a “reason and results” person to embracing reason with love. Through Vivian’s guidance and the SuperME process, he opened up more deeply, shared more authentically, and found a new dimension in his teaching and writing. Together, they did not just co-create a book — they co-created a journey of mutual growth. Vivian brought heart, Andy ...