How People Demotivate People Unknowlingly

Before we can talk about motivating people, let's know how to Not Demotivate People in 5 Ways:

Ignoring People, giving people the cold shoulder and seeing people as transparent. When you ignore people, you are telling them they are not important, and what you say would be overshadowed by this
Over Promise. Nothing beats under promise over deliver and over promise under deliver is the most de-motivating
Favouritism. Everyone wants to feel important, and making people feel unimportant must be the biggest insult of all
Negativity, like being so pessimistic and make everything seem impossible
Ask for Opinion and Then Discard that Opinion. We know when you ask for opinion you make people feel important. But when you discard that opinion you are making them feel really unimportant!

So my friend, before you open your mouth and post another comment on the internet, ask yourself this question: am I de-motivating people? If so, don't do it. For we know de-motivation is the greatest source of unhappiness. Related articles (for course list click here):

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