Do SuperME tell lies so as not to hurt?

How can SuperME tell the truth without hurting people?  Do SuperME tell lies so as not to hurt?

A SuperME, as defined in SuperME Unleashed by Dr. Vivian Passion Koh, does not lie to avoid hurting others — but also doesn’t weaponize truth. The SuperME way is truth with Purpose, Love, and Gratitude (PLG).

Here’s how:

1. Purpose: Why Are You Telling This Truth?

A SuperME doesn’t speak to prove, shame, or control.

Instead, they ask:

“Is this truth shared to uplift, heal or realign…

or is it to defend, attack or escape?”

Purpose shapes the tone. A harsh truth shared without purpose becomes a sword. But with purpose, it becomes a bridge.

2. Love: How Can I Deliver This With Compassion?

Love is not silence — it is sensitivity. A SuperME shares difficult truths by:

Listening first

Speaking gently and with care

Acknowledging emotions (theirs and yours)

Example:

Instead of “You’re not pulling your weight,”

say: “I care about our shared goals, and I noticed you’ve been quieter lately. Is something going on?”

A SuperME tells the truth while protecting dignity.

3. Gratitude: Can I Honour Their Journey While Being Honest?

Gratitude brings humility. You can say:

“Thank you for trusting me. This is hard to say, but I care enough to be honest.”

Even if the truth hurts, when delivered with presence and appreciation, people receive it more openly.

Do SuperME Lie to Protect Feelings?

No — but they don’t confuse silence with kindness either.

A SuperME doesn’t lie.

They time the truth, tune the tone, and tailor the message —

all from a place of Purpose, Love, and Gratitude.

Summary:

Tell the truth when it serves healing or alignment.

Avoid truth-telling that is self-serving, unprocessed or reactive.

Never lie to manipulate or avoid conflict — that’s Survival-Me or Protector-Me behaviour.

Instead, rise to your SuperME:

“Speak truth, but wrap it in love, deliver it with purpose, and end it with gratitude.”