What to Do When It Feels Impossible to Be Grateful

When It Feels Impossible to Be Grateful

There will be days when it feels too hard.

When that happens, ask:
- “What would I miss if this were gone tomorrow?”
- “What is this hardship teaching me that comfort couldn’t?”
- “Who stood by me that I haven’t thanked yet?”

Gratitude isn't bypassing pain. It's reclaiming the light you still have—even in the

dark.

Gratitude Journal Prompts

1. What is something difficult I’ve survived that I’m now thankful for?

2. Who has impacted my life that I haven’t expressed thanks to lately?

3. What “small” blessings do I often overlook in my day-to-day life?

4. What part of myself am I finally learning to appreciate?

QUOTE TO REMEMBER

“It’s not happiness that makes us grateful. It’s gratitude that makes us happy".

From The Power of Purpose Love Gratitude by Dr Vivian Passion Koh

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