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Stop Managing and Start Coaching

Managers are trained how to manage and lead their people, and some of them are proud of the fact that they can change people.  For managers who are commissioned to hit some aggressive sales numbers, coaching is the last thing on their mind.  

 But we know that all change must come from inside, and a manager can never push for results or attempt to change people overnight.  Real change happens when people want to change by themselves, and the way to do this is to coach them.  

 In order to coach people, managers must know the following 5 important facts of coaching:
  1. Surrender Your Agenda When Coaching. Coaching is about the coachee, not the coach or the coaching program.  The coach must go into the mindset of the coachees, not his own mindset.  Although the coach may have some objectives when he coaches his coachee, he must remain flexible and realize that the most important thing is not to complete his agenda but to help to solve the coachee's problem
  2. Coaching is a Process, not a Destination.  Most important is what the coachee derives during the coaching session, and the subsequent action that he takes.  So there is no accomplishment for the coach, for his accomplishment lies in what his coachee does 
  3. Coach from the Heart, not from the Head.  There is certainly a place for templates and a step-by-step model in coaching, but nothing beats coaching from your heart.  For only when you coach from the heart can you truly touch the coachee and inspire him.  
  4. Detach From the Outcome. If you were ever in a situation where you've walked away from a conversation feeling drained or exhausted, chances are there was something you were attached to or attempting to control in the conversation.  That means that you were attached to certain outcome. In coaching, you need to be aware of such attachments, like the need to be right, the need to produce a desired result, the need to be understood and have people agree with you
  5. Create Possibilities, not Expectations.  A possibility is something that may exist or what could happen, whereas an expectation is an agenda attached in your mind.  It is only when you are open to possibility that you are inspired to innovate or create something new while being present in a conversation or activity.  You will feel a sense of choice in your pursuit of your goal.  
Whether you are a manager, director, supervisor or executive, you know that at the end of the day, people learn more by themselves than from others.  Coaching is the one and only way that people can learn by themselves.  Start coaching and you'll see great changes in yourself and your people.  The next How to Coach and Mentor Effectively seminar is on 12 May 2015 Tuesday 9 am to 5 pm.  Fee is $398 each or $299 each for 2 and above.  Venue is at The Plaza 02-346, 7500A Beach Road.

Power-packed Contents Include: 
  1. Myths and Truths of Coaching and Mentoring
  2. Benefits of Coaching: 6 times return
  3. Going to the root cause: Capability and Thinking Deficiency
  4. ACT's 5-Ways Coaching Success: Uncover Inner Drive, Discover Answers, Facilitate Doing, Audit and Ask Tough Questions
  5. Key Values and Skills of a Good Coach
  6. Six Steps to Coaching using GROW and GEUNIS models
  7. The Ultimate in Coaching: Changing the Being and How
  8. Giving Feedback and Turning Around Under-Performers
  9. The Coach's Toolbox and 6 Tools of Coaching
  10. Goal Setting and Helping people to Achieve their Goals
  11. Overcoming Difficulties and Stress
  12. What to Do When Coaching Does not work
  13. Self Coaching: 5 Power Questions to Ask Yourself
  • Bonus 1: Facing the Giants and Peaceful Warrior Strategies 
  • Bonus 2: 50 Power Questions to Coach Yourself
  • Bonus 3: Weekly Coaching Questionaire
Benefits: 

1. Ready tools to energize your team 
2. Help them overcome challenges
3. Foster better teamwork
4. Higher productivity and profits
5. Develop leaders and 2nd leaders
6. Successful People Management
7. Be a Better Manager and Leader! 

As seats are limited, you need to register fast, by emailing to andythecoach@gmail.com or text to 8201-4347.  When you register 2 pax, you will get 1 pax free.  For details, click here. Related articles:






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