How to Be Happy When You're Stressed

It sounds funny, right? How can one be happy when stressed? What is stress? Whenever you're not getting what you want, you have stress. Note that it is negative stress that makes us suffer, positive stress gives us energy and impetus to do more.

The next time you are stressed, you are doing this thing called Focus on What Went Wrong. The simple way to de-stress immediately and be instantly happy is to Focus on What Went Right. It is not what happens to us that makes us suffer, but what we do to what happened that makes us suffer.

For example, your team members are not demonstrating the teamwork and responsibility you want. As a result, work gets piled up and you're now stressed. Instead of scolding your team members for being irresponsible and upset everyone, why not focus on what's right? What are right could be: you have a team, your team is intact and not broken, your team's turnover is low, your team have not betrayed you, and most importantly, they possess the needed skills and experience to get the job done. With focus on such positive factors, you and your team will be able to quickly come up with solutions to tackle the challenge on hand.

Remember whatever you focus grows, focus on what's right and your team members will show to you what are right. Focus on what's wrong will actually motivate people to do more wrongs so as to live up to your expectation. The fastest and most effective way to de-stress is to not to stress on the negatives any more. Stress on the positives and your stress will go away instantly. It's that simple but effective. Related articles on work:

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