The Only Reason They Can Reject Your Teaching

I'm sure many of you have this experience: you wanted to teach your child or staff something, or you wanted to send them for training for you think they lack certain skills. Chances are that your child or staff will reject your teaching. They will tell you things like, "I already know what you are going to teach me", or "Let's not waste time on things that we already knew".

Many bosses would accept such reason and conclude that the staff or child does not need the teaching. Is that true?

The only reason your staff or child can reject your teaching is that they know more than you. The only way to demonstrate this knowledge is from their doing and action. So the next time when they reject your teaching, you can tell them, "I'm happy that you already know what I'm going to teach you. Can you demonstrate what you know in your work? If it is demonstrated that you know more than me, I would like you to be my teacher, is that okay for you?"

I'm sure 8 out of 10 times the staff or child would tell you, "I know but I cannot teach you". You would ask, "Why?" They will likely tell you, "Because I don't think I know that subject matter so well to be able to teach you". At this time you would simply tell them, "In that case why not you let me teach you first?" I'm sure they would answer you "Yes".

And so bingo! You just have a new student. You know that the only reason a person can reject a teaching or training is that they know more than the teacher or trainer. There is no other reason. Any 'reason' provided (like no time, no money or no interest) are just excuses to avoid learning. As an employee, it is your job to learn as much as possible so that you can contribute more to your company. If you refuse to learn, you have to show your knowledge in your work results. If you cannot show the results, then I would say you have a bad attitude as an employee for you refuse to improve your contribution.

Written by Andy Ng, Chief Trainer Coach of Asia Trainers, details of courses at here. Related articles on training:

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