1. Take Out Filler Words in Your Daily Conversation.
Filler words and phrases are sounds that have no meaning, they are there to fill in spaces while we are thinking.
The most common fillers are 'so', 'well', 'like', 'you know', 'how come' and 'sort of'. Filler words reflect a unclear mind that just wants so speak. Imagine a conversion full of filler words, what a mindless conversation it is!
2. When Eating, Just Eat.
Many people like to gobble their food, and the more they like a food, the faster they eat it. Many people are afraid that if they don't fast, that good food may be gone.
The point is until you adopt mindful eating, you are not absorbing the full benefits of the food you're eating and you're just wasting food! In Japan, it is very rude to eat and talk at the same time, and munching a food while listening to a lecture or walking is also considered barbaric. So take one bite at a time and enjoy your food to the fullest!
3. Give out True Compliments - refer to the previous blog on this at here
4. Secret Acts of Virtue.
Do something good for others, like charity or service, but don't let them know. All religions practise generosity, but we are more than religions.
Generosity is innate, we don't need to learn this. Babies just give out smiles without expecting anything in return.
The Buddha said: Generosity is the highest virtue, and anonymous giving is the highest form of giving.
5. Notice Dislike
Aversion or dislike, along with greed and ignorance, are the three common weaknesses of humans. Whenever we dislike something, we push away, yet the more you push it away, the more it comes back to you. It is like trying to push a ball down in a swimming pool.
Most of us have thousands of aversions in a single day, and such aversions are giving us unnecessary stress and suffering.
Aversion is also the hidden source of anger and aggression. It arises from the mistaken notion that if we could just manage to get rid of something or someone, then we would be happy. That something to get rid of could be as trivial as a queue or as large as a terrorist group.
There are other ideas of aversion like "If I could arrange things - and people - to be just as I want them, then I would be happy." This is absurd because people and things are changing all the time, how can we ever arrange them in perfect order? Also, our "perfect" is not perfect to others.
So get rid of aversion and your life would be happier instantly. Instead of pushing it away, embrace it and see how you can best adapt to it, ignore it or make the dislike become your like instead!
6. Like When You Dislike.
Appreciate everything and like them instead of disliking them.
In this very moment, what can you like or appreciate? This practise helps us to cultivate joy, which is more than just appreciating what makes us feel good but includes the happiness we feel in connection with other people's joy and good fortune. We normally feel joyous at our family members' success, but when someone we dislike is successful, we feel jealous and envious instead of joy. Such negative mind makes us want to focus on the negative aspects of people that we don't like.
The result is that we are hurting ourselves, because our jealousy and envy only make us want to push away other peoples' successes, and in turn also deny our own successes.
So the next time you see something good happening to a stranger or someone you don't like, feel joyous too. It is the start of your own riches
7. Smile to Yourself.
Do an inner soft smile like what The Buddha does all the time (you can see a typical Buddha's statue below).
If you check the mirror a few times a day, you'll be surprised to find that all the time you are actually frowning and not smiling. We have no hesitation to smile to others at work, but how often do we smile to ourselves?
Smiling is natural, as all babies smile without being taught or forced by anyone. Smiling expresses your happiness to the outside. When others are happy, you'll be even more happy. Fortune will come your way.
By Andy Ng of Asia Trainers, related articles:
- The 5 ways to give out mindful compliments
- You don't need permission to do good
- Go to the edge to earn more
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