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The 7 Fetters of Highly Effective People

It pains me to see some people that are so talented and yet they did not achieve much.  In fact they have what we called 7 Fetters of Highly Effective People.  Face the fetters and take action today to remove them and you will be on a different path.  The 7 Fetters are:
  1. Having No Goals.  Alas, this is so old-fashioned but really if you have no goals, you will just be living your life on a roller coaster - many ups and downs but you end up where you begin - no improvement at all.  
  2. Having Too 'Ambitious' (Unrealistic) Goals.  This is the opposite of Having No Goals, but is more than that. These people are unrealistic, they are going for the moon when right now they can't even swim in the Pacific Ocean. Such people are not grounded, they live in dreams and often they are impractical.
  3. Having No Friends.  No man can succeed alone and friends can be a great leverage at the right time. Some people said that it is better to have a few enemies but many friends than to have no friends and enemies.  This is because your friends can help you defend against your enemies.
  4. Having Too Many Friends.  These people end up spending all their time on other peoples's issues and they have no time to develop themselves.  You see it too often: people that spend lots of time preparing what presents to buy for their friends' birthdays that they forget to plan for their own lives. 
  5. Having No Money.  Yes, you need money to get a good education, and if you have no money you must know where to get free money like bursaries and sponsorships. 
  6. Having Too Much Money.  Such people have no more desire to succeed and they spend their lives on pursuit of happiness.  Just look at how the second and third generations of successful businessmen spend their time on cars and you'll know what I'm talking about. 
  7. Having Incorrect Understanding of Life.  This is the most serious fetter, and many people didn't even know they have incorrect understanding of life.  For life is not a destination but a journey, it's the journey that brings us happiness, not the destination. Get it?
By Andy Ng, whose courses (under Asia Coaching Training and Asia Trainers) on management, sales and executive skills have reached 12 countries including Japan, China, Australia and Maldives.  Reach him at 65-82014347 or click here. Related articles:

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