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Surprised! These 7 Skills Trainers Don't Teach

Trainers teach trainees many skills but as a full-time trainer since 2001, I realize that the following 7 skills are not taught in most training programs, including SkillsFuture courses. But they are so important that if you know them, you will turn yourself from stress to success.

1. Be Lovely
People teach you to love others, but if you are lovely, people will love you and this will make your life much easier.

To be lovely is not just to be cute, it is also about being open and generous in receiving love. Like I always enjoy being praised because people think I am lovely from the pictures that I post on my Facebook.

2. Sleep at Work
Sleeping at work means knowing when to let go and be 'not conscious', and pretending not to know when you know everything. That to me is mastering work! 

3. Time Squeezing
Effective time squeezing is in, time management is out. Time squeezing is to make use of tiny pockets of time (less than 2 minutes) to do useful things like updating your Linked-in posts, congratulate people on WhatsApp (I am at 65-8201 4347) and posting a short 1 minute video in 2 minutes using Magisto app.

4. Asking for help
Knowing when you need help and ask for help is surprisingly difficult to learn and do because no one wants to be perceived as weak or incompetent.

But a recent study from the Harvard Business School suggests doing so makes you look more, not less, capable. According to the study authors, when you ask people for advice, you validate their intelligence or expertise, which makes you more likely to win them over.

5. Shut up
There are many instances when keeping to yourself is the best course.

Keeping your mouth shut when you’re agitated is one of the most valuable skills to learn, and of course, one of the most difficult.

6. Resisting gossip
One of the easiest ways to lose trust in relationships is to gossip about people behind their back.

Learning not to gossip is hard because it means distancing himself from influential people, and awkwardly having to tell people, “Hey, sorry to interrupt but I really don’t need to know that, could we talk about something else?”

7. Mastering your thoughts
All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him

The mind is everything. What you think you become. In order to live rightly, you must fill your mind with “right” thoughts.

Your thinking determines your actions; your actions determine your outcome. Right thinking will grant you everything you desire; wrong thinking is a vice that will eventually destroy you.

By Andy Ng, Chief Trainer Coach at Asia Trainers, visit him at www.asiatrainers.com and watch him in action at www.youtube.com/AndyNgCoach/videos
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