How to Be Not Easily Provoked with SuperME

How to Be Not Easily Provoked — When You Are a SuperME

In today’s world of endless triggers, fast reactions, and constant pressure, one of the most powerful traits a person can develop is emotional stability — the ability to not be easily provoked.

We live in a time where people are praised for quick comebacks, strong opinions, and sharp criticisms. But true strength lies in calmness, in grace, and in the ability to respond instead of react.

And that is exactly what the SuperME stands for.

The SuperME vs The Survival-Me

As outlined in SuperME Unleashed by Dr. Vivian Passion Koh (with contributions from Andy Ng), there are 4 versions of “Me” that influence our behavior:

1. Survival-Me – reactive, fear-based, defensive

2. Protector-Me – controlling, over-analytical

3. Small-Me – self-doubting, approval-seeking

4. SuperME – aligned with Purpose, Love, and Gratitude (PLG)

When someone provokes us — whether it’s a sarcastic comment, an unfair decision, or a personal attack — our Survival-Me wants to retaliate.

But the SuperME pauses, reflects, and chooses a response that protects not just your ego, but your energy.

The Sun Tzu Strategy: Win Without Fighting

In Win Without Fighting with Sun Tzu Art of War, Andy Ng explains that the highest form of victory is:

> "To win without fighting. To neutralize the attack before it begins."

Sun Tzu says:

> “He who is angered easily can be defeated easily.”

When you’re easily provoked, you become predictable — and therefore, vulnerable.

But when you stay composed, you shift the power dynamics.

Practical SuperME Strategies to Stay Unprovoked

1. Anchor in Purpose

When your identity is tied to purpose — not pride — people’s words can’t shake you.

Example:

Imagine someone criticizes your presentation.

Survival-Me thinks: “They’re attacking me!”

SuperME says: “I am here to serve, not to please. What can I learn from this?”

2. Apply the 5-Second Pause

Before reacting, ask:

> “Am I responding from fear, or from purpose?”

That 5-second space can shift a harsh retort into a graceful reply.

3. Practice Gratitude in Conflict

Gratitude rewires your emotions.

Example:

When someone is rude in a meeting, instead of snapping back, say:

> “Thank you for sharing your thoughts — I’d love to explore this more calmly.”

You keep your ground without losing your grace.

4. Use the Art of War's Principle: Know Yourself

When you know your triggers, you can disarm them before others do.

Example:

If disrespect triggers you, your SuperME prepares ahead:

> “If I’m disrespected today, I will respond with clarity, not chaos.”

In Conclusion:

The more SuperME you are, the less power others have over you.

Because when you know who you are, you don’t need to fight to prove it.

You don’t need to react to every opinion.

You don’t need to control every outcome.

You simply stand strong in Purpose, act in Love, and flow with Gratitude.

And that’s the kind of person who doesn’t just win —

That’s the person who wins without fighting