Happiness with LAY

Many people think that LAY (Love Intelligence, Art of War and Yijing) are “lofty classical wisdom”: something abstract, philosophical, even distant from daily life.

But if they cannot increase the happiness of ordinary people,
then no matter how profound they are, they are meaningless.

This is how I usually respond.

I am not teaching people how to become more powerful.
I am teaching people how to live more clearly.

First, Love Intelligence reduces inner conflict.

Many people are unhappy not because they are not successful.
They are unhappy because there is constant war inside them.

• Cold wars with spouses.
• Silent competition with colleagues.
• Anger toward children.
• Harsh judgment toward themselves.

Love Intelligence is built on three principles:
Care. Courage. Connection.

When you practice a little more care and a little less blame,
when you have the courage to face issues instead of avoiding them,
when you seek connection instead of control,

• conflict decreases.
• Relationships soften.

Happiness is not always about gaining more.
Often it is about losing less.

Second, the Yijing helps you understand timing.

Much suffering comes from misalignment.

• Advancing when you should wait.
• Retreating when you should act.
• Forcing when you should adapt.
• Hesitating when you should move.

Yijing is not fortune-telling.
It is about change and momentum.

When you understand the phase you are in,
you stop fighting reality.

When you move with the flow of timing,
you waste less energy.

Fewer wrong turns itself increases happiness.

Third, the The Art of War teaches you how to fight less.

One of its highest teachings is this:
The greatest victory is won without battle.

Many people live exhausted lives
because they are constantly resisting something.

• Fighting their boss.
• Fighting the market.
• Fighting circumstances.
• Fighting fate.

Sun Tzu teaches positioning, strategy, and avoidance of unnecessary confrontation.

When you no longer need to prove yourself every day,
when you learn to pivot instead of collide,
half your stress disappears.

In the end, I tell people this:

Happiness is not about owning more.
It is about seeing clearly, choosing wisely, and living calmly.

Love Intelligence keeps your heart steady.

Art of War keeps your methods intelligent.

Yijing keeps your direction aligned.

When your heart is steady,

your direction aligned,
and your methods efficient,

even an ordinary person can live with dignity, stability, and peace.

That is my work.

Not to glorify classical Chinese wisdom,
but to translate it into practical strength
that people can use every single day.