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The bully? He’s longing to be seen for his strength, not feared for it.
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The lazy one? She may be tired of trying — because no one saw her efforts before.
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The critic? He’s scared his voice doesn’t matter, so he makes it louder.
The one and only reason behind so much bad behaviour:
Lack of appreciation.
What Happens When You Appreciate a Bully?
You cut the fuel of insecurity.
You let them know: “You don’t need to fight to be valued. I already see your strength.”
And in that moment, the armor starts to fall.
People stop being bad…
…because they finally feel good.
Not from ego.
But from being received — for who they truly are.
SuperME Philosophy in Action
From Dr. Vivian Passion Koh’s SuperME Unleashed:
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People aren’t trying to hurt you. They’re trying to be loved.
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They’re just stuck in their Protector-Me — defensive, fearful, disconnected.
What melts that armor?
Not punishment. Not correction.
But gentle, persistent, real appreciation.
Real Example:
He never helps with housework.
But you say:
“I admire how calm and composed you are. I trust you know what needs to be done.”
Suddenly — he does it.
Why? Because you saw his dignity, not his deficiency.
You made him want to rise, not rebel.
In Summary:
Instead of Reprimanding a bad behavior, | Acknowledge hidden goodness |
Label people | Lift people |
Correct flaws | Celebrate essence |
“People live up to the words you give them. So give them words of belief, and they will become better.”
– Andy Ng, SuperME Co-Founder
People are not bad. They’re just unseen. Unheard. Unloved.
“All misbehavior is a cry for appreciation, not punishment.”
– SuperME Unleashed, Dr. Vivian Passion Koh
I feel you, I see you, I understand you
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