The More You Perform, the More You Feel Unseen

Be yourself—everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde

From a young age, we’re taught how to “perform”:

- Smile when you're sad

- Be polite, even when you're uncomfortable

- Succeed, even if it means suppressing your truth

And we do it because:

- We want to belong

- We want to be safe

- We want to be loved

But in the process… we forget how to be real.

Why We Perform

Performing is a survival mechanism.

When we fear:

- Rejection

- Judgment

- Abandonment

- Or not being “enough”

We create a version of ourselves that feels acceptable.

The cost? Our authenticity. You may become loved for who you’re not… and wonder why you still feel unseen.

The solution: Go back to yourself. Be Authentic. Be a SuperME, that's what you ARE, more at https://asiatrainers.org/smubook

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