The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, and How to Prevent Them

When people reach the end of life, their regrets are rarely about money, status, or achievements.

They are about love not lived, courage not taken, and connection not honoured.

That is why the Top 5 Regrets, observed by Bronnie Ware, are in fact a lack of Love Intelligence.

1. “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself.”

This regret is fundamentally a Courage issue.

People live according to: expectations, fear of disapproval, and social pressure

Love Intelligence trains courage that is quiet but firm:

the courage to listen inwardly and live authentically.

LQ in action:

You regularly ask:

“Is this my life — or someone else’s expectation?”

People with high LQ don’t wait until old age to reclaim their life.

They do it early, gently, and consistently.

2. “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”

This is a Care failure — not for work, but for life.

People overwork not because they love work,

but because they neglect caring for family, relationships, health and presence

Love Intelligence reframes success.

LQ in action:

You care not only about outcomes, but about who pays the price for those outcomes.

High LQ people still work hard —

but never at the cost of the people they love.

3. “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”

Again, this is Courage, but emotional courage.

Many suppress feelings to avoid conflict, keep peace, appear strong

The cost is emotional isolation.

LQ in action:

Love Intelligence teaches truth with care:

honesty without harm, expression without aggression.

People with LQ speak earlier, softer, and more truthfully —

so nothing heavy is left unsaid at the end.

4. “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”

This regret reveals broken Connection.

Friendships don’t disappear suddenly.

They fade quietly through neglect.

Love Intelligence keeps relationships alive through small gestures, consistent care, 

remembering what matters

LQ in action:

You don’t wait for “free time” to connect.

You treat connection as a life priority, not a luxury.

5. “I wish I had let myself be happier.”

This regret is the absence of all 3 Cs.

People delay happiness because:

• they fear change (no Courage)
• they neglect joy (no Care)
• they disconnect from themselves (no Connection)

Love Intelligence teaches a radical truth:

Happiness is allowed.

LQ in action:

You stop postponing joy.

You allow laughter, rest, and lightness — without guilt.

The Deeper Pattern Behind All 5 Regrets

All five regrets point to one core issue:

Living for external validation instead of inner alignment.

Love Intelligence is the antidote.

It teaches us to:

• Care for what truly matters
• Have the Courage to live honestly
• Maintain Connection with self and others

In One Sentence

If Love Intelligence is lived daily, there will be nothing heavy to regret at the end.

That is why LQ is not a soft skill.

It is a life skill. Grab it at https://asiatrainers.org/lqamazon or here