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The Knowing–Doing Gap: Why Good Intentions Don’t Create Good Results

As the year draws to a close, many of us are busy reflecting, planning, and setting resolutions. We know what we should do.

Exercise more
Lead better
Care more
Act with courage.

And yet, when the new year arrives, life often looks the same.

This is the Knowing–Doing Gap.

In Love Intelligence, I wrote:

“Knowing is comfortable. Doing is costly. Growth happens only when we are willing to pay the price of action.”

The gap between knowing and doing is not caused by a lack of intelligence.
It is caused by a lack of Love Intelligence (LQ).

We fail to act because:

We don’t care enough about the outcome
We lack the courage to be uncomfortable
We feel disconnected from purpose

That’s why LQ is built on Care, Courage, and Connection.

Care moves the heart.
Courage moves the feet.
Connection sustains the journey.

Festive seasons are powerful moments. They remind us of what truly matters.
But without action, reflection becomes regret.

Another line from Love Intelligence says:

“What you love determines what you act on. What you don’t act on, you never truly loved.”

As the new year approaches, ask yourself one honest question:
What do I know, but still refuse to do?

Closing the Knowing–Doing Gap is the difference between another year of planning and a year of progress.

If you are ready to turn insight into action, clarity into courage, and intention into results, Love Intelligence is written for you.

📘 Get your copy of Love Intelligence here:
👉 https://asiatrainers.org/lqbook

This new year, don’t just know better.
Do better.

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