How to Stop Shrinking and Start Growing

Many people don’t fail because they lack ability or opportunity.

They fail because of self-sabotage.

Notice this pattern:

When things start going well, they pull back.

Opportunities appear, they find excuses.

Someone offers help or coaching, they retreat.

Money increases, they unconsciously waste it away.

This isn’t laziness.

It’s an identity problem.

Success feels unfamiliar, so the old self tries to regain control.

This is where Love Intelligence (LQ) changes everything.

1. Care

Stop attacking yourself for feeling hesitant.

Nothing is wrong with you. You’re just entering new territory.

2. Courage

Give yourself permission to succeed.

Most people don’t fear failure — they fear outgrowing who they used to be.

3. Connection

Reconnect with your future self.

Ask: If I truly loved my future self, what would I do today?

Money sabotage is the clearest signal.

When money exceeds self-worth, people rush decisions, bad investments, and overspending.

Pause. Let your identity catch up before acting.

One powerful shift:

When help is offered, don’t overthink. Just say, “Thank you. I receive.”

New rule for life:

Good things are allowed to stay.

When Love Intelligence is applied, people stop shrinking when life expands —

because success finally feels safe.