My siblings and I were helping my father move his old, worn-out mattress. And as we lifted it, we froze. Underneath that bed lay heaps and heaps of Singapore Pools 4D tickets.
They weren’t neatly stacked. They were layered, like ancient ruins. A paper trail of lost hopes, accumulating over the years.
What shocked us most wasn’t just how many there were. It was the stakes. My father wasn’t betting a dollar or two for fun. He was punting hundreds of dollars per draw: more than 10 times a month.
At the time, we were absolutely furious. My father was a 78-year-old retiree. We looked at those slips with a mix of anger, confusion, and judgment. We thought to ourselves, "Why does a man at his stage of life need to win such 'big money'? What is he going to do with it? Buy luxury items? Live a lavish life?" We saw it as a reckless habit. A sign of poor judgment in his final years.
I vividly remember some of us saying, "If I were to give him pocket money just for him to gamble it away on 4D, why don’t I keep the money and buy 4D myself? At least I have better discipline!"
We judged him. Oh, how harshly we judged him.
But ladies and gentlemen, it has taken me two decades, and the experience of raising my own three grown-up children, to finally see the heartbreaking truth that was hidden under that mattress.
It wasn’t about greed. It was about survival. It was about deep, aching financial insecurity.
My father retired in the early 1990s. From that exact moment, his steady income vanished. And as I stand before you today, looking back with painful, brutal honesty... I realize that we, his children, never really gave him pocket money.
Between the time I started working in 1988 and his passing in 2008, I only provided for him financially a handful of times. There were no meaningful birthday gifts. No special festive allowances. Red packets for Chinese New Year? They were small, token amounts.
That 78-year-old man wasn’t chasing a luxury lifestyle. He was chasing a sense of independence that he desperately lacked.
Every single 4D ticket under that mattress was a silent, desperate attempt to have his own means. To not feel like a burden in his own home. He wanted to buy a nice 2nd-hand Rolex watch without feeling guilty. He wanted to live without waiting for crumbs.
And then, the most painful realization hit me: I am the one who made him "go big" into 4D. My neglect created the cold, empty vacuum that he tried to fill with those slips of paper.
In my professional life as a trainer, I talk a lot about IQ and EQ. But true abundance: becoming what I call an "LQ Millionaire", requires something far deeper. It requires Love Intelligence (LQ).
Love Intelligence is the capacity to recognize the human patterns that drive our behavior. It is the ability to look past a frustrating surface-level action and see the unmet, crying need underneath. We judged the betting. We completely missed the insecurity.
My father didn’t need a winning ticket. He needed to feel secure. He needed to feel respected. He needed his dignity.
When we fail to provide emotional and financial dignity to our elders, they will look for it elsewhere. And let me tell you something about Asian parents: they will never open their mouths to ask their children for money. To ask is to destroy whatever little dignity they have left.
Because they know what happens if they ask. They fear their children looking at them and saying, "You need money for what? What do you want to buy? Don't waste money!"
To avoid that humiliation, my father bet on a dream under his mattress.
We think being a millionaire is about the numbers in our bank account. But you can be a financial billionaire and an LQ bankrupt. To be an LQ Millionaire means you are rich in understanding. It means you look at your aging parents, your spouse, your children, and you hear their hidden silent cries before they have to beg.
Ancient wisdom tells us that everything in the universe operates on patterns and resonance. In the Yijing (The Book of Changes), we learn that when we change our internal perspective, our entire external reality shifts. If we want to change our relationships, we must first change how we interpret the hidden behaviors of those we love.
I was blind for twenty years. I cannot bring my father back to give him the pocket money, the respect, or the red packets he deserved. But I can honor his memory today by making sure you don't make the same mistake I did.
This Father's Day, I am choosing to heal. I am choosing to share this truth. And I want to help you build your own Love Intelligence, so you can decode the silent patterns of the people who matter most to you.
To support you on this journey of becoming an LQ Millionaire, I have packaged decades of my life's lessons, psychological insights, and ancient wisdom into two powerful books: "Love Intelligence" and "Yijing Explained".
These books are not just theoretical manuals. They are tools to help you look past the frustrations in your home, decode human behavior, and restore dignity and deep connection to your family before it's too late.
Today, you can invest in these life-changing insights. You can get either Love Intelligence or Yijing Explained for just $35 for one book. But because I want you to have the complete blueprint of modern emotional intelligence and ancient wisdom combined, you can take home both books today for just $39.90.
For less than forty dollars, less than what my father spent on a single week of desperate 4D tickets, you can gain the tools to save a relationship, understand a parent, or heal a family pattern.
Don't wait until the mattress is empty. Don't wait until all that's left are paper slips of regret. Become an LQ Millionaire today. Let's start healing our relationships from the heart.
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