Are Your Skin Thin and Your Heart White?

Me teaching the audience the Jim Rohn's 5 Puzzles of Life

Like you, I as a Coach and Trainer am also human and very often are concerned of what makes me feel good that I sometimes forget what makes me great.

Yet I know that a successful life is one that is lived through understanding and pursuing one’s own path, and not chasing the dreams of others.

I also know that Character is not made of sunshine and roses. Like steel, character is forged in fire, between the hammer and the anvil.

So I find the ‘Thick Face Black Heart’ concept by Chin-ning Chu so useful. Because Thick Face Black Heart is not about ruthlessness.

It is about adapting and adopting non-destructive ruthlessness, to gain the freedom in action necessary to achieve effectiveness in the execution of your task.

We all have the innate power within us: Thick Face is the Shield while Black Heart is the Spear.

A Thick Face person has the ability to put Self Doubt aside. His confidence instills confidence in others. And that creates more success for the team.

A Black Heart person is above short-sighted compassion and dare to do things that few dare to do. Like cutting cost and chopping heads. And getting the team to do the impossible.

So my friend, adopt Thick Face Black Heart concept to your life and you'll achieve success in your life!

By Andy Ng, Chief Trainer at AsiaTrainers. You can watch his videos at www.youtube.com/AndyNgCoach

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