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兰芝——骗子，还是有伦理的领导者？ 没有寄出郑木生的讣告，是欺骗，还是一种更高层次的伦理领导？ 给阿嬷的情书 道德经 当郑木生于1960年离世后，兰芝本可以把噩耗告诉远在中国潮汕苦苦等待丈夫归来的叶淑柔。 她没有。 相反，她选择继续冒充郑木生，写信、寄侨批、汇款，一坚持就是18年。 从**合规（Compliance）**的角度来看，很多人会说： “她在说谎。” 但如果从**伦理领导（Ethical Leadership）**的角度来看，问题就变得更深刻： 她究竟在守护什么更高的价值？ 兰芝展现了什么？ 一、道德勇气（Moral Courage） 她选择了最困难的一条路。 没有人要求她，也没有人会赞扬她。 她没有得到任何利益，反而牺牲了自己的青春、时间、金钱，甚至一生的幸福，只为了守护另一个家庭的希望。 二、利害关系人的思维（Stakeholder Thinking） 她没有问： “这样做对我有什么好处？” 她问的是： “如果我停止，这些人会受到什么伤害？” 她守护的不只是郑木生和叶淑柔，更守护着两个家庭的未来。 真正负责任的领导，不是只考虑自己，而是兼顾所有利害关系人的福祉。 三、长期伦理（Long-term Ethics） 许多伦理失败，并非因为人不知道对错，而是因为只追求眼前利益。 兰芝思考的不是今天，而是未来几十年。 真正的责任领导，不是为了短期利益，而是为了长期信任与希望。 你怎么看兰芝？ 她是一个骗子？ 还是一位没有头衔，却活出了伦理领导精神的人？ 《给阿嬷的情书》故事简介 负债累累的潮汕青年小伟，为了寻找传说中身家亿万的祖父郑木生，远赴泰国。没想到，他发现祖父早已于1960年去世，而且从未富有。随着一封封侨批与家书被揭开，小伟得知祖母叶淑柔数十年来一直在中国苦苦等待丈夫寄来的信件与汇款。最终，一个震撼人心的真相浮现：1960年至1978年的18年间，这些信件和汇款，竟然都是泰国女子谢兰芝冒充郑木生所完成，只为了守护一个家庭的希望。 你认为，兰芝是骗子，还是伦理领导者？欢迎分享你的看法。 #给阿嬷的情书 #伦理领导 #Ethics #ResponsibleLeadership #爱的智慧

Xie Lanzhi – Ethical Leadership Through Moral Courage She is probably the strongest ethics case study in the movie. Ethical dilemma of Not sending Musheng's Obituary  She could have sent Musheng's wife the news that Musheng had died. She did not.  Instead she chose to continue writing letters and sending money to his wife Shurou for almost twenty years. From a compliance perspective, many would say: "She is lying." Yet from an ethical leadership perspective, the question becomes much deeper. What higher purpose is she protecting? What Lanzhi demonstrates 1. Moral courage Doing what is difficult even when no one knows. She gains nothing. In fact, she sacrifices time, money and even her own happiness. 2. Stakeholder thinking Instead of asking "Is this good for me?" she asks "Who will be hurt if I stop?" She protects  Musheng,  Shurou, and  both families.  Responsible leadership is about multiple stakeholders, not self-interest....

How Dear You Embodies SuperME Unleashed The global movie phenomenon Dear You is not just a touching story. It is a living demonstration of what SuperME Unleashed teaches: that every ordinary person has the potential to become extraordinary by living with Purpose, Love, and Gratitude (PLG). 1. Purpose – Living Beyond Yourself Every major character lives for something greater than personal comfort. Lan Zhi writes letters for nearly twenty years, not because she has to, but because she has a purpose: to protect hope, preserve dignity, and honour a promise. Purpose gives ordinary people extraordinary perseverance. SuperME begins when life is no longer just about "me," but about making a difference to others. 2. Love – Seeing the Greatness in Others The movie is not about romantic love. It is about choosing care over criticism, courage over convenience, and connection over separation. The characters believe in one another when others doubt them. They give strength instead of ju...

How Xie Laishun Embodies Leadership with Sun Tzu Art of War Most people remember Nanzhi's father Xie Laishun as the "drunk old man" in Dear You . He is always drunk and leaves the heavy lifting of running the hostel to his daughter.  He cannot even do his role properly as a watchman, and he led the police to the room upstairs where the children are secretly learning Chinese.  But I remember this drunk man differently.  Read the greatness of this drunk man at here https://andyngtrainer.blogspot.com/2026/07/the-drunked-great-man-xie-laishun-in.html He is a leader who perfectly demonstrates Sun Tzu's highest wisdom. 1. He Won Hearts Without Fighting Sun Tzu's greatest strategy is not defeating people, but winning without fighting . Xie Laishun never relied on authority, wealth, or force. Instead, he earned trust through kindness, sacrifice, and unwavering character. People followed him not because they had to, but because they wanted to. That is the highest form of ...

What's so special about Xie Lai Shun? As the father of Lan Zhi, he is drunk most of the time and never really cares about the hostel business.   That is exactly what makes Xie Laishun one of the most brilliant, subverted, and universally praised characters in the movie  Dear You (给阿嬷的情书)!   While he initially appears to be a careless, alcohol-dependent slacker who leaves all the heavy lifting of the Bangkok Chinatown hostel to his daughter, he actually serves as Lan Zhi's greatest emotional anchor and safety net .  Without this drunk man, there will be no Musheng making a living in Thailand and Lan Zhi's writing of letters for 18 years.  Viewers and critics on platforms like Douban have pointed out several reasons why his character is profoundly special: 1. A Progressive, Unconditional Fatherly Love In an era and culture heavily weighed down by patriarchal expectations, Laishun completely breaks the mold: Rejecting Toxic Traditions : When an unreasonable...

**《给阿嬷的情书》最让我难忘的三个画面** 也是《爱的智慧》最深刻的启发 每个人看完《给阿嬷的情书》，心里都会留下不同的感动。 而最让我难忘的，有三个画面。 1. 电影结尾：做人要有情有义 电影最后，阿嬷对孙子说：**“做人要有情有义。”** 她没有叫孙子努力赚钱。没有叫孙子追求名利。 她只是告诉他：有情有义，自然会有人帮助你。 这句话让我感触很深。 因为我相信：好人，会吸引更多好人。 善良，会吸引更多善良。 信任，会吸引更多信任。 机会，也会因为你的品格而来到你身边。 很多人一生都在追逐金钱。但电影告诉我们，真正值得追求的，是情义。 因为有了情义，财富自然会跟着来。 所以我常说：**情义，就是金钱。** **爱的智慧，就是财富。** 2. 郑木生：平凡人的伟大 木生选择了一个很少人愿意做的工作——三轮车夫。 每天辛苦工作到深夜，省吃俭用，只为了寄更多的钱回中国给家人。 他没有抱怨。没有炫耀。没有要求别人知道他的付出。 看到这一幕，我想到天下无数的丈夫和父亲。 他们每天努力工作，舍不得花钱在自己身上，却愿意把最好的留给家人。 他们或许默默无名，却撑起了一个家庭。 我认为， **这才是真正的伟大。** 真正的爱，不是说了多少甜言蜜语。 而是默默承担，默默付出。 3. 木生的离开，留下永恒的影响 木生的离世，没有轰轰烈烈。没有刻意煽情。 生命，就这样安静地结束了。 可是，他的精神却一直留了下来。 因为他推广华文教育，泰国有许多学校以他的名字命名。 他从来没有想过要留下什么传奇。 他只是一直做自己认为对的事。 这让我明白， **每个人都会留下自己的遗产。** 不一定是财富。也不一定是名声。 而是你帮助过多少人，影响过多少生命，留下多少善意。 真正的遗产，不是在生命结束时才开始。 而是在我们每天的言行中，一点一滴累积出来。 那你呢？《给阿嬷的情书》最打动你的画面是什么？ 哪一句台词，哪一个镜头，让你久久不能忘记？ 它又让你想起了人生中的什么？ 欢迎和我分享。因为，每个人看到的是同一部电影，感受到的，却是自己的人生。 而这，正是《给阿嬷的情书》最大的魔力。 它讲的，从来不是别人的故事。 它讲的，一直都是我们的故事。

My 3 Most Memorable Moments from movie  Dear You And What They Taught Me About Love Intelligence Every person walks away from Dear You with different memories. These are mine. 1. The Ending: "Be a Person of Qing Yi (情义)." The final scene touched me the most. Grandma did not tell her grandson to become rich.  She did not tell him to become famous. She simply said: "做人要有情有义。" She explained that when you have Qing Yi , people will naturally help you. That, to me, is one of the most profound life lessons. When you become a good person, goodness attracts goodness. When you care for others, people care for you. When you build trust, opportunities come naturally. Many people chase money. But perhaps money is not something we chase. Perhaps it is something that follows people with Qing Yi. That is why I often say: Qing Yi is Money. And Love Intelligence is Wealth. 2. Mu Sheng: The Greatness of an Ordinary Man Mu Sheng chose one of the toughest jobs: a trishaw rider. He wor...

Why Smart Leaders Fail in the AI Era And How Yijing Leadership & Management Can Help Artificial Intelligence is changing business faster than any technology in history. Yet something surprising is happening.  Some of the smartest leaders are struggling. Not because they lack intelligence.  But because intelligence alone is no longer enough. For decades, leadership was built on knowledge, analysis and experience. Today, AI can analyse faster.  AI remembers more.  AI writes better reports.  AI generates strategies in seconds. If leadership is only about information, AI will always win. So what makes a leader irreplaceable? The answer may have been written over 7,000 years ago. Yijing. The Book of Changes is not a book about predicting the future. It is a book about understanding change.  And change is exactly what every leader faces today. 1. Oneness – Lead with Purpose Many organisations have AI strategies.  Very few have human st...

Why Leaders Fail in the AI Era Sun Tzu Had the Answer 2,500 Years Ago. Everyone is talking about AI. Few are talking about leadership. Ironically, AI isn't exposing a technology gap. It's exposing a leadership gap . Many leaders believe their job is to: Give instructions. Solve problems. Make decisions. Monitor performance. AI can now do much of that faster than humans. So what remains uniquely human? Sun Tzu answered this 2,500 years ago. He placed Dao (道):  shared purpose and alignment: as the first principle of leadership. People don't give their best because they're managed. They give their best because they believe. Today's organizations don't suffer from a lack of information. They suffer from: Too little trust. Too little alignment. Too much internal competition. Too many leaders trying to control instead of inspire. Sun Tzu's highest strategy was never to fight harder. It was to win without fighting . That means creating such trust, clarity, and comm...

给阿嬷的情书 的高价值人生观： 越稀缺，越珍贵；越珍贵，越值得拥有 什么东西最有价值？ 经济学告诉我们： **稀缺、被需要、能满足人的深层需求。** 《给阿嬷的情书》之所以成为现象级电影， 正是因为它唤醒了这个时代越来越稀缺的人生价值。 这些价值，不只是电影里的故事，更是人生最宝贵的财富。 ## **一、等待的价值** 那个年代，一封信寄出去，可能要等上几个月才收到回信。 等待，不是浪费时间。 等待，是一种信任。 是一种耐心。 更是一种对爱的信心。 今天，我们习惯即时回复、即时满足、即时成功。却忘了， 人生许多最好的结果，都来自愿意等待的人。 投资如此。 事业如此。 爱情也是如此。 《爱的智慧》（LQ）告诉我们： **勇气，不只是敢行动。** **更是懂得等待最好的时机。** ## **二、顺流而行的价值** 兰芝并没有刻意规划自己的人生。 她只是顺着生命的安排，继续替木生写信给淑柔。 没有抱怨。没有抗拒。没有计算。 只是顺着自己的心，把该做的事情做好。 人生很多时候，不是事事都要控制。 而是学会顺势而为。 当我们跟随内心的善意，生命往往会带领我们走向更大的意义。 《爱的智慧》提醒我们： **连接自己的心，顺着正确的方向前行。** ## **三、不记得的价值** 电影里最令人感动的，是兰芝后来几乎忘记了自己做过的一切。 她没有记功。没有期待感谢。没有要求回报。 她只是一直做，因为她觉得应该做。 正因为如此，她的付出才显得如此珍贵。 真正的关爱，从来不是为了交换。 真正的善良，从来不会记账。 《爱的智慧》告诉我们： **关爱，因为这是你的品格。** **不是因为别人会回报你。** 当快乐来自付出的过程，就不需要计算付出了多少。 ## **为什么这些价值越来越珍贵？** 等待。顺流而行。付出而不计较。 这些看似平凡的品质，却正是今天最稀缺的东西。 而越稀缺，越有价值。 也许，这就是《阿嬷的情书》感动千万人的原因。 它不是让我们怀念过去。 而是提醒我们，那些我们以为已经失去的价值，其实正是我们内心最渴望拥有的东西。 而这三种高价值人生观， 也正是《爱的智慧》（LQ）的体现。 **关爱（Care），付出而不求回报。** **勇气（Courage），懂得等待，也敢于坚持。** **连接（Connection），顺着真心，与人建立真实而长久的关系。** 真正的财富，不只是金钱。...