Guys, When Your Good Friend is a Woman, Be Careful of These 5 Rules

Guys, When Your Good Friend is a Woman, Be Careful of These 5 Rules

We all have friends of the opposite gender, and sometimes we are so closed to them that we forget that there are 5 rules to stick to when your good friend is of the opposite gender: (note: the opposite is true for girls: rules when your good friend is a guy).

1. Never have any body contact, Handshake is only when you guys are new to each other, so don't shake hands after that. Also, no touching of shoulders or wrist when getting excited in your conversations. Keep selfies to a minimum.

2. No sending of ambiguous 暧昧 messages or conversations, for these could lead to intimate messages or conversations

3. No two persons alone in one room or enclosed place. The exception must the lifts or very short durations eg 5 minutes while waiting for something

4. No overcare and concern for each other, especially for their personal or family matters.

5. No talking about marital or relationship issues with each other, for these could lead to conversations of love for each other.

Guys, I know the above is not easy to do, and you may say, "Andy, I know how to control myself" or "I am not that type of person, I am very loyal to my wife or girlfriend". But please, we are all humans. It is better to be careful or be sorry later. The fact that the two of you are good friends means that you should let this be the permanent relationship: just friends and nothing else.

Adapted from my teacher at YouTube 深夜读书

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