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  《给阿嬷的情书》的人讲话很凶？还是我们误会了他们？ 很多人看完《给阿嬷的情书》后都会说： “他们讲话怎么这么凶？” 甚至有人觉得，他们是不是很粗鲁？ 其实，不完全是。 电影里说的是 潮阳口音 的潮汕话。 这种口音本来就比较低沉、直接、语气较重。 如果不熟悉的人，很容易误以为他们在骂人。 但更重要的是，他们说话的方式，也反映了那个年代南洋华人的生活。 他们离乡背井。生活艰苦。每天为了生存而奋斗。长期面对贫穷、压力和不确定性。 生活没有太多温柔。说话自然也少了几分修饰。 然而，真正值得我们注意的， 不是他们 怎么说 ， 而是他们 怎么做 。 木生默默工作，把赚来的钱寄回中国养家。 南枝默默守护一个承诺，18年来替木生写信、寄钱给淑柔。 谢来顺看起来粗鲁、爱喝酒， 却收留移民、支持华文教育，更用生命保护别人。 他们的话或许不温柔， 但 他们的行动，却充满了爱。 这也是《爱的智慧》（LQ）最重要的启发。 不要只听一个人说什么。 更要看一个人做什么。 真正的爱，不是甜言蜜语。 而是愿意承担。愿意牺牲。 愿意在别人最需要的时候，做对的事。 这就是《爱的智慧》所说的： 关爱（Care）。 勇气（Courage）。 连接（Connection）。 有时候， 一个人说话可以很直接， 却拥有一颗最善良的心。 真正打动人的， 从来不是说话的语气。 而是行动背后的真心。 这， 也是《给阿嬷的情书》最美的一课。

Speaking Rudely or Simply Speaking from Life? What Dear You Teaches Us About Love Intelligence Some people say the characters in Dear You sound rude. Others wonder whether they are simply crude people. The truth is, neither is entirely correct. The movie uses the Chaoyang (潮阳) accent of the Teochew dialect, which naturally has a deeper, stronger and more direct tone than what many Singaporeans or Malaysians are used to hearing. But there is something even more important. Their way of speaking reflects the harsh realities of their lives. These were immigrants struggling to survive in a foreign land. They worked long hours. They faced poverty, uncertainty and discrimination. Life was hard. Their words were rough. But their hearts were gentle. This is perhaps one of the biggest lessons from Dear You . Don't judge people only by how they speak . Look at how they live . Look at what they do. Mu Sheng sacrificed everything for his family. Nanzhi quietly devoted twenty years of her lif...

You probably shouldn't watch Dear You ... 1. Don't watch it if you don't want to cry. Not because the movie is sad. But because it reminds you of the people you have forgotten. Your parents.  Your spouse. Your old friends. The people who quietly loved you. You may leave the cinema with tears—and a grateful heart. 2. Don't watch it if you believe money is the most important thing in life. Xiao Wei went looking for money. Instead, he found Qing Yi (情义) . The movie quietly reminds us that trust, loyalty and love often create more lasting wealth than money ever can. It may change what you think success really means. 3. Don't watch it if you're comfortable living without Love Intelligence. Dear You isn't just a movie. It's a mirror.   It asks uncomfortable questions. Have you appreciated the people around you? Have you expressed your love? Have you lived with Care, Courage and Connection ? If not, the movie may change you. So perhaps you really shouldn't...

Why Am I Promoting this dialect movie  Dear You ? People often ask me, "You are a leadership and management trainer. Why do you keep recommending the movie Dear You ?" The answer is simple.  I am not promoting a movie. I am promoting some of the finest values of Chinese culture that deserve to be passed on to future generations. Dear You reminded me of three timeless values that many of us have gradually forgotten. 1. Qing Yi, Not Just Romance Many people think the movie is a love story.  I don't. To me, it is a story about Qing Yi (情义) . Nan Zhi helped Mu Sheng during his lifetime. Even after Mu Sheng passed away, she continued writing letters and sending money to his wife in China for nearly twenty years. What makes this extraordinary is that Nan Zhi never fell in love with Mu Sheng. Their relationship was never romantic. It was built on trust, responsibility and Qing Yi. Today, many people believe that a man and a woman cannot have a deep relationship without romance....

  为什么我要推广《给阿嬷的情书》？ 很多人问我： “你是一名现代领导与管理培训师，为什么一直推荐潮洲《给给阿嬷的情书》？” 其实，我不是在推广一部电影。 我是在推广中华文化中最珍贵、却越来越稀缺的价值观。 《给阿嬷的情书》让我看见三种我们几乎遗忘的美德。 第一，是情义，而不仅仅是爱情。 电影里，兰芝帮助木生，甚至在木生去世后，默默替他写信、寄钱给淑柔近二十年。 最难得的是，兰芝并没有爱上木生。 他们之间不是爱情，而是超越爱情的 情义 。 今天，我们常把男女关系理解成爱情，却忘了人与人之间还可以有纯粹的信任、责任与情义。 第二，是父母真正的爱。 谢来顺没有替女儿安排人生，也没有什么大道理。 他做的一件事，就是相信女儿，支持女儿，让她勇敢走自己的路。 真正的父爱，不是替孩子安排一切， 而是给他们自由成长的勇气。 第三，是人性的共鸣 很多电影让我们笑，却很快忘记笑什么。 很多电影让我们哭，却不知道为什么哭。 《给阿嬷的情书》却不同。 我们知道自己为什么流泪。 不是为了剧情。 而是因为电影让我们看见了自己。 看见自己曾经拥有的善良、 曾经相信的情义、 曾经渴望却渐渐遗忘的爱。 这就是为什么《阿嬷的情书》能够感动千万观众。 它讲的不是过去。它讲的是今天的我们。 因此，我希望把这部电影的精神带进我的课程。 不是为了推广电影，而是为了传承三种最珍贵的中华价值： 情义。 成全。 共鸣。 我相信，在AI越来越聪明的时代，真正值得传承的，不是更多知识，而是这些让我们真正成为人的价值。 这也是《爱的智慧》一直想传播的核心： 关爱、勇气、连接。 因为真正能够改变世界的，从来不是科技，而是人心。

回来的，不是方言。 回来的，是爱。 《给阿嬷的情书》这部潮汕话电影风靡全球后， 有人说： “方言回来了。” 我认为，不完全是。 大家走进电影院，不是因为潮汕话。 而是因为 爱。 如果同样的故事用普通话、粤语，甚至英语拍摄， 我相信，它一样能够感动千千万万人。 因为真正打动人的，从来不是语言。 而是人性。 《给阿嬷的情书》的爱，透过三个人物展现得淋漓尽致。 木生，代表的是牺牲的爱。 为了家人，他拼命工作，省吃俭用， 把最好的一切留给别人。 兰芝，代表的是勇敢的爱。 她默默承担别人不愿承担的责任，用二十年的时间，守护一个家庭的希望。 淑柔，代表的是坚定的爱。 她等待。她相信。她忠诚。 即使岁月流逝，依然没有放弃心中的那份爱。 他们三个人，让我们重新认识了什么是真正的爱。 爱，不是一句“我爱你”。 爱，是牺牲。是勇气。是忠诚。 这也正是《爱的智慧》（LQ）所说的： 关爱（Care）。 勇气（Courage）。 连接（Connection）。 所以， 《阿嬷的情书》能够跨越国家、跨越文化、跨越语言，感动全世界。 因为观众未必听得懂每一句潮汕话， 却一定听得懂 爱 。 这部电影真正唤醒的，不是方言。 而是我们心中那份久违的爱。 在这个越来越AI化、越来越讲求效率的时代， 真正回来的，不是一种语言。 而是一种人性。一种 有情有义 的人性。 这，才是《给阿嬷的情书》真正的奇迹。 也是《爱的智慧》一直想传播的力量。

Dialects Are Coming Back? No. Love Is. With the phenomenal worldwide success of the Teochew movie Dear You , some people have concluded that Chinese dialects are making a comeback. I don't think so. People are not watching Dear You because it is in Teochew. They are watching it because it speaks the universal language of love . If the same story had been told in Mandarin, Cantonese or English, it would still have touched millions of hearts. Because the real power of Dear You is not its dialect. It is its humanity. That humanity is beautifully embodied by three ordinary people. Mu Sheng shows us the love of sacrifice. He works tirelessly, asks for little, and gives everything for his family. Lan Zhi shows us the love of courage. She quietly carries a burden that no one asked her to bear, choosing compassion over convenience for nearly twenty years. Shurou shows us the love of faith. She waits.  She believes. She remains steadfast through decades of uncertainty. Together, they r...

兰芝——骗子，还是有伦理的领导者？ 没有寄出郑木生的讣告，是欺骗，还是一种更高层次的伦理领导？ 给阿嬷的情书 道德经 当郑木生于1960年离世后，兰芝本可以把噩耗告诉远在中国潮汕苦苦等待丈夫归来的叶淑柔。 她没有。 相反，她选择继续冒充郑木生，写信、寄侨批、汇款，一坚持就是18年。 从**合规（Compliance）**的角度来看，很多人会说： “她在说谎。” 但如果从**伦理领导（Ethical Leadership）**的角度来看，问题就变得更深刻： 她究竟在守护什么更高的价值？ 兰芝展现了什么？ 一、道德勇气（Moral Courage） 她选择了最困难的一条路。 没有人要求她，也没有人会赞扬她。 她没有得到任何利益，反而牺牲了自己的青春、时间、金钱，甚至一生的幸福，只为了守护另一个家庭的希望。 二、利害关系人的思维（Stakeholder Thinking） 她没有问： “这样做对我有什么好处？” 她问的是： “如果我停止，这些人会受到什么伤害？” 她守护的不只是郑木生和叶淑柔，更守护着两个家庭的未来。 真正负责任的领导，不是只考虑自己，而是兼顾所有利害关系人的福祉。 三、长期伦理（Long-term Ethics） 许多伦理失败，并非因为人不知道对错，而是因为只追求眼前利益。 兰芝思考的不是今天，而是未来几十年。 真正的责任领导，不是为了短期利益，而是为了长期信任与希望。 你怎么看兰芝？ 她是一个骗子？ 还是一位没有头衔，却活出了伦理领导精神的人？ 《给阿嬷的情书》故事简介 负债累累的潮汕青年小伟，为了寻找传说中身家亿万的祖父郑木生，远赴泰国。没想到，他发现祖父早已于1960年去世，而且从未富有。随着一封封侨批与家书被揭开，小伟得知祖母叶淑柔数十年来一直在中国苦苦等待丈夫寄来的信件与汇款。最终，一个震撼人心的真相浮现：1960年至1978年的18年间，这些信件和汇款，竟然都是泰国女子谢兰芝冒充郑木生所完成，只为了守护一个家庭的希望。 你认为，兰芝是骗子，还是伦理领导者？欢迎分享你的看法。 #给阿嬷的情书 #伦理领导 #Ethics #ResponsibleLeadership #爱的智慧

Xie Lanzhi – Ethical Leadership Through Moral Courage She is probably the strongest ethics case study in the movie. Ethical dilemma of Not sending Musheng's Obituary  She could have sent Musheng's wife the news that Musheng had died. She did not.  Instead she chose to continue writing letters and sending money to his wife Shurou for almost twenty years. From a compliance perspective, many would say: "She is lying." Yet from an ethical leadership perspective, the question becomes much deeper. What higher purpose is she protecting? What Lanzhi demonstrates 1. Moral courage Doing what is difficult even when no one knows. She gains nothing. In fact, she sacrifices time, money and even her own happiness. 2. Stakeholder thinking Instead of asking "Is this good for me?" she asks "Who will be hurt if I stop?" She protects  Musheng,  Shurou, and  both families.  Responsible leadership is about multiple stakeholders, not self-interest....

How Dear You Embodies SuperME Unleashed The global movie phenomenon Dear You is not just a touching story. It is a living demonstration of what SuperME Unleashed teaches: that every ordinary person has the potential to become extraordinary by living with Purpose, Love, and Gratitude (PLG). 1. Purpose – Living Beyond Yourself Every major character lives for something greater than personal comfort. Lan Zhi writes letters for nearly twenty years, not because she has to, but because she has a purpose: to protect hope, preserve dignity, and honour a promise. Purpose gives ordinary people extraordinary perseverance. SuperME begins when life is no longer just about "me," but about making a difference to others. 2. Love – Seeing the Greatness in Others The movie is not about romantic love. It is about choosing care over criticism, courage over convenience, and connection over separation. The characters believe in one another when others doubt them. They give strength instead of ju...

How Xie Laishun Embodies Leadership with Sun Tzu Art of War Most people remember Nanzhi's father Xie Laishun as the "drunk old man" in Dear You . He is always drunk and leaves the heavy lifting of running the hostel to his daughter.  He cannot even do his role properly as a watchman, and he led the police to the room upstairs where the children are secretly learning Chinese.  But I remember this drunk man differently.  Read the greatness of this drunk man at here https://andyngtrainer.blogspot.com/2026/07/the-drunked-great-man-xie-laishun-in.html He is a leader who perfectly demonstrates Sun Tzu's highest wisdom. 1. He Won Hearts Without Fighting Sun Tzu's greatest strategy is not defeating people, but winning without fighting . Xie Laishun never relied on authority, wealth, or force. Instead, he earned trust through kindness, sacrifice, and unwavering character. People followed him not because they had to, but because they wanted to. That is the highest form of ...

What's so special about Xie Lai Shun? As the father of Lan Zhi, he is drunk most of the time and never really cares about the hostel business.   That is exactly what makes Xie Laishun one of the most brilliant, subverted, and universally praised characters in the movie  Dear You (给阿嬷的情书)!   While he initially appears to be a careless, alcohol-dependent slacker who leaves all the heavy lifting of the Bangkok Chinatown hostel to his daughter, he actually serves as Lan Zhi's greatest emotional anchor and safety net .  Without this drunk man, there will be no Musheng making a living in Thailand and Lan Zhi's writing of letters for 18 years.  Viewers and critics on platforms like Douban have pointed out several reasons why his character is profoundly special: 1. A Progressive, Unconditional Fatherly Love In an era and culture heavily weighed down by patriarchal expectations, Laishun completely breaks the mold: Rejecting Toxic Traditions : When an unreasonable...

**《给阿嬷的情书》最让我难忘的三个画面** 也是《爱的智慧》最深刻的启发 每个人看完《给阿嬷的情书》，心里都会留下不同的感动。 而最让我难忘的，有三个画面。 1. 电影结尾：做人要有情有义 电影最后，阿嬷对孙子说：**“做人要有情有义。”** 她没有叫孙子努力赚钱。没有叫孙子追求名利。 她只是告诉他：有情有义，自然会有人帮助你。 这句话让我感触很深。 因为我相信：好人，会吸引更多好人。 善良，会吸引更多善良。 信任，会吸引更多信任。 机会，也会因为你的品格而来到你身边。 很多人一生都在追逐金钱。但电影告诉我们，真正值得追求的，是情义。 因为有了情义，财富自然会跟着来。 所以我常说：**情义，就是金钱。** **爱的智慧，就是财富。** 2. 郑木生：平凡人的伟大 木生选择了一个很少人愿意做的工作——三轮车夫。 每天辛苦工作到深夜，省吃俭用，只为了寄更多的钱回中国给家人。 他没有抱怨。没有炫耀。没有要求别人知道他的付出。 看到这一幕，我想到天下无数的丈夫和父亲。 他们每天努力工作，舍不得花钱在自己身上，却愿意把最好的留给家人。 他们或许默默无名，却撑起了一个家庭。 我认为， **这才是真正的伟大。** 真正的爱，不是说了多少甜言蜜语。 而是默默承担，默默付出。 3. 木生的离开，留下永恒的影响 木生的离世，没有轰轰烈烈。没有刻意煽情。 生命，就这样安静地结束了。 可是，他的精神却一直留了下来。 因为他推广华文教育，泰国有许多学校以他的名字命名。 他从来没有想过要留下什么传奇。 他只是一直做自己认为对的事。 这让我明白， **每个人都会留下自己的遗产。** 不一定是财富。也不一定是名声。 而是你帮助过多少人，影响过多少生命，留下多少善意。 真正的遗产，不是在生命结束时才开始。 而是在我们每天的言行中，一点一滴累积出来。 那你呢？《给阿嬷的情书》最打动你的画面是什么？ 哪一句台词，哪一个镜头，让你久久不能忘记？ 它又让你想起了人生中的什么？ 欢迎和我分享。因为，每个人看到的是同一部电影，感受到的，却是自己的人生。 而这，正是《给阿嬷的情书》最大的魔力。 它讲的，从来不是别人的故事。 它讲的，一直都是我们的故事。

My 3 Most Memorable Moments from movie  Dear You And What They Taught Me About Love Intelligence Every person walks away from Dear You with different memories. These are mine. 1. The Ending: "Be a Person of Qing Yi (情义)." The final scene touched me the most. Grandma did not tell her grandson to become rich.  She did not tell him to become famous. She simply said: "做人要有情有义。" She explained that when you have Qing Yi , people will naturally help you. That, to me, is one of the most profound life lessons. When you become a good person, goodness attracts goodness. When you care for others, people care for you. When you build trust, opportunities come naturally. Many people chase money. But perhaps money is not something we chase. Perhaps it is something that follows people with Qing Yi. That is why I often say: Qing Yi is Money. And Love Intelligence is Wealth. 2. Mu Sheng: The Greatness of an Ordinary Man Mu Sheng chose one of the toughest jobs: a trishaw rider. He wor...