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I am Just Following My Heart: the 3 Great Lovers in Dear You

"I Am Just Following My Heart."

What Dear You Teaches Me About Love Intelligence

When people talk about Dear You, they often focus on Mu Sheng, Nan Zhi and Shurou.

But three lesser-known characters quietly reveal the deepest meaning of Love Intelligence.

Xie Laishun – The Father Who Let Love Be Free

He looked like a drunk who cared about nothing.

Yet beneath that rough exterior was a father who never tried to control his daughter Nanzhi. 

He simply trusted her. He protected her.

He gave her the freedom to follow her own heart.

That is Care with Courage.

Xiao Wei – The Grandson Who Found Qing Yi

As the grandson of Shurou, he went to Thailand looking for money.

Instead, he found no money but something cannot buy.

He discovered that the greatest inheritance is not wealth, but Qing Yi.

His journey reminds us that true prosperity begins with becoming a good person.

Zhehua – The Son Who Quietly Carried Love Forward

He never stood in the spotlight as the adopted son of Nan Zhi

Yet through his quiet actions, he honoured Nan Zhi's life and values.

Without loud speeches or dramatic gestures, he continued the spirit of kindness, gratitude and responsibility.

That is how love is passed from one generation to the next.

"I Am Just Following My Heart."

None of these three characters sought recognition.

None asked whether there was anything to gain.

They simply followed what they believed was right.

They followed their hearts.

That is the beauty of Dear You.

It teaches us that Truth, Goodness and Beauty are not found in grand heroic acts.

They are found in ordinary people quietly choosing to care, to do the right thing, and to build meaningful human connections.

That is also the essence of Love Intelligence (LQ).

Sometimes the greatest people are not the main characters.

They are the ordinary people who quietly remind us what it truly means to be human.

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