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Qing Yi, Empowring others and Human Resonance

Why Am I Promoting this dialect movie Dear You?

People often ask me,

"You are a leadership and management trainer. Why do you keep recommending the movie Dear You?"

The answer is simple. I am not promoting a movie.

I am promoting some of the finest values of Chinese culture that deserve to be passed on to future generations.

Dear You reminded me of three timeless values that many of us have gradually forgotten.

1. Qing Yi, Not Just Romance

Many people think the movie is a love story. 

I don't.

To me, it is a story about Qing Yi (情义).

Nan Zhi helped Mu Sheng during his lifetime.

Even after Mu Sheng passed away, she continued writing letters and sending money to his wife in China for nearly twenty years.

What makes this extraordinary is that Nan Zhi never fell in love with Mu Sheng.

Their relationship was never romantic.

It was built on trust, responsibility and Qing Yi.

Today, many people believe that a man and a woman cannot have a deep relationship without romance.

Dear You reminds us that there is something even greater:

Qing Yi.

2. The Greatest Love of a Father

Another lesson that touched me deeply was the relationship between Xie Laishun and his daughter, Nan Zhi.

Many parents believe loving their children means doing everything for them.

Laishun did something far more valuable. He trusted his daughter. 

He encouraged her to make her own choices.

He stood behind her instead of controlling her.

True parenting is not about deciding our children's future.

It is about giving them the confidence and freedom to discover it themselves.

3. Human Resonance

Many comedies make us laugh, but we soon forget what we laughed about.

Many tragedies make us cry, but we cannot explain why.

Dear You is different.

We know exactly why we cry.

We are not crying because of the plot.

We are crying because, through the movie, we see ourselves.

  • We see our forgotten kindness.
  • Our quiet sacrifices.
  • Our regrets.
  • Our longing to love and to be loved.

That is what I call human resonance.

It is the greatest strength of this movie.

Why This Matters

These are the three values I hope to bring into my courses:

  • Qing Yi — relationships built on trust, loyalty and responsibility.

  • Empowering Others — giving people the freedom to grow and become their best.

  • Human Resonance — touching people's hearts through authenticity and genuine connection.

That is why I recommend Dear You. Not because it is a great movie.

But because it reminds us what it means to be truly human.

And that is exactly what Love Intelligence (LQ) is about:

Care. Courage. Connection.

In an age where AI is becoming increasingly intelligent, these human qualities will become our greatest competitive advantage.

That is why Dear You is more than a movie.

It is a lesson in humanity.

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