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从《给阿嬷的情书》,读懂《易经》

很多人觉得《易经》很深奥。

要学阴阳、八卦、六十四卦,才能懂《易经》。

其实,不一定。如果你看懂了《给阿嬷的情书》,你已经开始读懂《易经》了。

因为,《易经》讲的,从来不是算命。而是人生。

《给阿嬷的情书》没有提过《易经》两个字,

却把《易经》的智慧,一幕一幕地演了出来。

一体——因为爱,我们从来不是一个人

《易经》说:“天地万物,本是一体。”

木生、南枝、淑柔、谢来顺……

他们原本只是四个不同的人。却因为一封侨批、一个承诺、一份情义,命运紧紧连在一起。

木生虽然离开了,他的爱没有离开。

南枝虽然不是淑柔的亲人,却把她当成自己的家人。

当一个人愿意付出,其实,所有人都因此受益。

这就是《易经》的一体观。

一个人的爱,可以改变许多人的一生。

阴阳——人生没有绝对的对与错

《易经》最大的智慧,就是阴中有阳,阳中有阴。

南枝冒充木生写信,从表面看,是欺骗。可是,这个“谎言”,却养大了三个孩子,守住了一个家庭,延续了木生的承诺。

到底是对?还是错?

《易经》不会急着给答案。

因为人生,远比黑白分明复杂得多。

真正的智慧,不是急着判断。而是理解。

变易——一切都会改变,唯有爱不会

《易经》说:“变,是宇宙唯一的不变。”

木生走了。南枝老了。淑柔白了头。孩子孙子长大了。

时代变了。侨批没有了。方言渐渐消失了。

可是,有一样东西,始终没有改变。

那就是——爱。

真正的爱,不会因为时间而减少。

不会因为距离而消失。更不会因为死亡而结束。

中道——真正伟大的爱,从来不张扬

《给阿嬷的情书》最打动人的,不是轰轰烈烈。而是克制。

没有惊天动地的告白。没有刻意催泪的情节。没有英雄式的牺牲。他们只是默默做好自己该做的事。

因为真正的力量,从来不需要喧哗。

这就是《易经》所说的中道

不偏激,不极端,却最有力量。

《易经》的最高智慧,就是爱的智慧

很多人学习《易经》,想知道未来。其实,《易经》真正教我们的,不是预测未来。而是如何活好今天。

当你懂得一体,你就会懂得关爱(Care)

当你懂得阴阳,你就会拥有勇气(Courage),不急着批判,而敢于理解。

当你懂得变化,你就会珍惜每一次人与人的连接(Connection)

所以,《给阿嬷的情书》最大的价值,

不是让我们认识侨批,不是让我们怀念潮州话。而是让我们重新发现:

《易经》的智慧,从来不在卦象里。

而在人心里。

当一个人活出关爱、勇气、连接

他已经活出了《易经》的精神。

也活出了爱的智慧

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