Who Should We Make Friends With?

Who Should We Make Friends With?

Dear You Gives Us a Simple Answer

Grandma's words in Dear You are simple:

"Be a person of Qing Yi. Don't associate with people who have no Qing Yi."

But how do we know who has Qing Yi?

It has little to do with wealth, education or status.

It has everything to do with character.

Make friends with people who...

1. Keep Their Promises

Their words and actions are consistent.

When they say they will do something, they do it.

Trust is built on reliability.

2. Stand by You in Difficult Times

Many people celebrate with you when life is good.

Very few stay when life becomes difficult.

True friends remain.

3. Care Without Calculating

They help because they care,

not because they expect something in return.

Their kindness is genuine.

4. Celebrate Your Success

They are happy when you succeed.

They encourage your growth instead of feeling threatened by it.

5. Dare to Tell You the Truth

They don't flatter you.

They care enough to correct you when you are wrong.

That takes courage.

6. Live with Truth, Goodness and Beauty

They are authentic.

They are kind.

They bring out the best in others.

Being with them makes you want to become a better person.

The Greatest Friendship Begins with Ourselves

Perhaps Grandma's advice carries an even deeper meaning.

Before asking,

"Who should I make friends with?"

we should first ask,

"Am I becoming the kind of person others can trust?"

Because people with Qing Yi naturally attract people with Qing Yi.

That is the essence of Love Intelligence.

Care for others.
Have the Courage to do what is right.
Build genuine Connections.

When you live this way,

you won't need to search for good friends.

Good friends will naturally find you.

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