Only Good News, Never Bad News

Only Good News, Never Bad News

What Dear You and Qiaopi Teach Us About Love Intelligence

One of the most touching lessons in Dear You comes from the Qiaopi (侨批)—the letters sent by overseas Chinese migrants back to their families in China.

These letters followed an unspoken rule:

Report the good news. Hide the bad news.

Why?

Not because they wanted to deceive.

But because they wanted to protect the people they loved.

1. They did not write about hunger.
2. They did not write about loneliness.
3. They did not write about hardship or danger.
4. They did not report on death, illness, or imprisonment

Instead, they wrote,

"I'm doing well."

"Don't worry about me."

Many letters were even rewritten by professional scribes, transforming simple or crude messages into beautiful poems and elegant prose.

The words became more beautiful, because the writers wanted to send hope instead of fear.

This was not dishonesty.

It was Love Intelligence.

They understood something many of us have forgotten:

Not every truth needs to be told immediately.

Sometimes, love means carrying the burden yourself so that others may live in peace.

Sometimes, wisdom is knowing when to speak the truth.

And sometimes, time itself becomes the messenger.

Years later, the full truth may emerge.

Or it may never be revealed.

But the intention was always the same: To protect. To encourage. To love.

This is one of the deepest expressions of Love Intelligence (LQ).

• Care chooses another person's peace over personal relief.
• Courage quietly carries the burden without seeking recognition.
• Connection values a loved one's hope more than one's own comfort.

Dear You reminds us that love is not always loud.

Sometimes, love is found in the truths we choose to delay, 

the burdens we choose to carry,

and the hope we choose to send.

That is the quiet wisdom of the Qiaopi.

And perhaps,

that is one of the greatest lessons of Love Intelligence.