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This Trainer has found his Ziqi. Now is looking for his Sun Yi and Teresa Teng

This Trainer Has Found His Ziqi. Now He Is Looking for His Sun Yi and Teresa Teng.

After 26 years of training, I have learned that being good at what you do is not enough. You also need the right people to recognise your value.

The ancient Chinese story of Boya and Ziqi (伯牙与子期) illustrates this beautifully.

Boya was a master of the guqin. Ziqi was the rare person who could truly understand and appreciate the feelings expressed through his music.

When Ziqi died, Boya reportedly broke his instrument and never played again.

This is the story of 伯牙绝弦 — the inspiration behind CHAGEE's Boya Jasmine Green Milk Tea (伯牙绝弦).

It teaches us the value of a 知音 — someone who truly understands and appreciates us.

I am fortunate that, in my training journey, I have already found someone who plays the role of Ziqi.

Someone who appreciates my strengths, encourages my efforts and celebrates my small achievements.

For that, I am deeply grateful. But appreciation alone is not enough to bring one's potential to the world.

That brings me to another beautiful story.

From Ziqi to Sun Yi and Teresa Teng

The song The Moon Represents My Heart (月亮代表我的心) struggled for recognition in its early years.

Lyricist Sun Yi (孙仪) helped give the melody its unforgettable words.

Then Teresa Teng (邓丽君) brought the song to an enormous audience through her 1977 recording.

Today, it remains a beloved classic.

Three people, three different contributions:

Ziqi recognises and appreciates your talent.

Sun Yi helps develop your talent into something more valuable.

Teresa Teng helps your talent reach the world.

At this stage of my life, I am grateful to have found my Ziqi.

Now, I am looking for my Sun Yi and Teresa Teng.

Not because I want fame for its own sake.

But because I believe the lessons I have developed through 26 years of training, together with my Love Intelligence (LQ) philosophy, can benefit many more people.

I want to bring more joy into learning, more courage into leadership and more care into human relationships.

And I know I cannot achieve that entirely on my own.

What About You?

Perhaps you are talented but underappreciated.

Perhaps you have spent years developing something valuable, but the world has not noticed.

Perhaps you already have your Ziqi, someone who believes in you, but have yet to find the people who can help you grow.

Don't mistake a lack of recognition for a lack of worth.

Keep improving. Keep connecting. Keep looking for the right people.

And remember, while searching for your own Sun Yi and Teresa Teng, you can also become someone's Ziqi.

Because success is not merely about finding people who help us shine. It is also about helping others discover their own light.

Andy Ng 吴林朔
Trainer, Author and Coach
Creator of Love Intelligence (LQ)
Financial Governance & Strategy Advisor

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