How to Know If You Are Authentic

How to Know If You Are Authentic

You know how to tell a fake Rolex watch from an authentic one. How about humans? Are you authentic or fake?

We know someone is authentic when he:

Suspends judgment in communicating with others. There is no should or shouldn't, just observe and understand;
Seek first to understand, then to be understood;
Is not concerned about how others view him, but instead focuses on how he can understand others better;
Put harmony and balance as a priority, to go with the flow;
Go with the flow, and let things happen naturally, without imposing your agenda, until you understand how others feel about a situation
Knows the limits and when to let go, let in, and take charge;
Is aware that he is more than others think he is. He knows that he is a 'SuperMe', and can handle super conflicts, make super choices, and start super movements.

Extracted from the newest book by Dr Vivian Passion Koh, Founder of Golden Phoenix Club and SuperMe Unleashed Community.

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