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你不是从零开始

很多人卡住,不是因为能力不够,
而是因为一直盯着问题看

越看,越乱。
越想,越累。
最后开始怀疑自己,甚至想放弃。


我做培训辅导26年,看过太多人在这个点倒下。
但其实,有一个很简单、马上可以用的方法:

转念。

当你觉得自己陷在泥潭里出不来时,
不要再拼命找答案。

先做一件事——
把注意力,从问题,转回你自己。


问自己两个问题:

  • 我一路走来,已经做到什么?
  • 有多少难关,其实我已经走过?

你会突然发现一件事:

你没有你想的那么弱,
反而比你以为的更强。


这个时候,我很喜欢做一件事:

听 <恭喜自己> 

不是为了娱乐,
而是提醒自己——

该肯定自己了。


很多人一生都在等别人认可,
却忘了最重要的一件事:

你有没有认可你自己?


这,就是爱的智慧里面很关键的一点:

关爱,不只是给别人,
也要给自己。

不是自恋,
不是逃避问题,

而是先把自己从低谷中拉出来,
你才有力量再面对现实。


当你学会这一点,

你就不会那么容易被打倒,
也不会那么容易放弃。

因为你知道——

你不是从零开始,
你是带着一身经历,在继续前进。

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