The training market is full of mirrors. If you stand in it long enough, you will eventually see a version of yourself that is tempting, lucrative, and completely hollow. They call it "smart business," but your soul knows it by another name: a compromise.
I am not a perfect man. I have my weaknesses, my blind spots, and moments in my life where the relentless pursuit of success made me blur the lines of my own values. But there is a difference between stumbling on the path and abandoning the compass altogether.
To me, being a SuperME means striving to be an integral, whole person. True integration means your inside matches your outside. It is the very definition of integrity. When you are anchored in Love Intelligence (爱的智慧), your life is guided by Care, Courage, and Connection—not just in how you treat others, but in how honestly you look at yourself in the mirror.
In my life, that compass has two unbreakable anchors. One is at home; the other is in my classroom.
The Anchor of Thirty Years
The world can be an incredibly distracting place, offering countless fleeting illusions of validation. Yet, in our thirty years of marriage, I pride myself on one absolute truth: I have never cheated on my wife, nor have I ever betrayed her trust.
Thirty years is not just a milestone of time; it is a tapestry of choices. It is the quiet daily decision to honor a sacred connection. In a society that often treats relationships as disposable, maintaining that loyalty requires both Care and Courage. It means caring enough to protect her peace, and having the courage to protect our bond from the erosion of the world. Because I know that I am already whole, I have never needed to seek fleeting validation outside of the life we built together. My integrity at home is the foundation of everything I am outside of it.
The Illusion of Easy Money
That same integrity is what forced me to walk away from the table when the money was easiest.
In 2017, I was approached for a major training project. The pitch was seamless, delivered with the slick enthusiasm of someone who had found a loophole in the system.
"The money is easy," they told me, leaning in with a knowing smile. "You can easily earn a few thousand dollars in just a week. We already have a massive number of corporate clients signed up and waiting. The beauty of it? The students don't even really need to watch the videos all the time. You just need to show your face, talk, and collect the cheque."
It was a few video courses designed not to educate, but to extract funding while leaving the participants empty-handed.
I stood there at the crossroads. A few thousand dollars for a few hours of "showing my face." No heavy prep work, no grueling seminar energy—just easy money.
But as I looked at the proposal, the principles of Love Intelligence spoke louder than the numbers on the contract.
Care meant respecting the learners who would blindly trust this program.
Connection meant honoring the sacred relationship between a teacher and a student.
If I took that money, I would be cheating the very essence of my craft. I would be selling a lie.
I looked them in the eye and walked away from the project.
Whole and Enough
Over the years, I have walked away from several of those lucrative traps. To some, it looked like missed opportunities. To the cynical, it looked like foolishness. But to me, it was the only way to keep my soul intact.
We live in a world that constantly whispers that we don't have enough, not enough money, not enough status, not enough reach. It tempts us to slice away pieces of our integrity to fill an endless void.
But when you realize that you are already a SuperME, you understand that you are already whole and enough. You don't need tainted wealth to build your value.
I may not have the largest bank account in the industry, and I may have bypassed the shortcuts to easy fame. But when I come home after thirty years to the woman who trusts me implicitly, and when I stand before a classroom of students who look to me for genuine guidance, I know exactly who I am.
My ledger is clean. My sleep is peaceful. And my integrity remains entirely my own.
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