How to Get What You Want All the Time

When You Are Not Getting What You Want, Go Back to the 3Cs

Many people become frustrated when they don't achieve what they want.

So they look for someone who has succeeded before them.

They ask: “What's the secret?”

“What strategy did you use?”

“What am I doing wrong?”

My answer is often much simpler:

Go back to basics.

And my basics are just three things:

Care. Courage. Connection.

1. CARE — Do You Care Enough About the Purpose?

Care doesn't mean working harder.

It doesn't mean spending more hours preparing or making everything perfect.

It means: Do you care enough to understand WHY you are doing it?

Imagine you are organising a reunion for old classmates. You can spend weeks designing the perfect poster, choosing the best restaurant and planning entertainment.

But what is the real purpose? To eat? To be entertained?

Or to bring old friends' hearts together again?

Once you understand the purpose, suddenly you know what really matters and what doesn't.

That's Care.

2. COURAGE — What Are You Willing NOT to Do?

We usually think courage means taking action.

But sometimes the greatest courage is having the confidence not to do something.

Not everything needs to be perfect. Not everything needs to be explained.

If you want an event to contain an element of surprise, you need the courage not to reveal everything beforehand.

You also need the courage to invite people knowing some will reject you.

Success isn't about doing more and more.

Sometimes it comes from knowing:

What can I courageously leave out?

3. CONNECTION — Is Your Heart Still Connected to It?

Finally, ask yourself: Do I actually love what I'm doing?

If it is a reunion, do you genuinely want to see these people again?
If it is a business, do you genuinely care about the customers?
If it is a relationship, are you still connected to the person, or merely fulfilling an obligation?

Connection means connecting your actions back to your heart.

Because when the heart is disconnected, even excellent execution can feel empty.

Success May Be Simpler Than We Think

So before searching for another strategy, another expert or another shortcut, ask yourself three questions:

CARE — Why does this matter?
COURAGE — What should I stop doing?
CONNECTION — Is my heart truly in it?

Care gives you Purpose. Courage gives you Focus. Connection gives you Heart.

Put them together, and you have something much more powerful than another technique.

You have Love Intelligence — LQ.

And perhaps when something isn't working, you don't always need to learn something new.

Sometimes you simply need to return to what matters most. More at https://asiatrainers.org/lqbook

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