No Love in Marriage? Have Love Intelligence

Marriage Ultimately Depends Not on Love, but Love Intelligence

We don't really need to envy other people's marriages.

The loving photos we see on social media rarely tell the whole story.

When two people live together for 10, 20 or 30 years, how can everything possibly remain as exciting as when they first fell in love?

People change. Our bodies change. Careers change. Circumstances change. Needs change.

Temptations don't disappear just because we are married, and neither do the pressures of life.

So perhaps the hardest part of marriage isn't falling in love with someone.

It is this:

After loving someone for many years, do you still know how to love that person?

Some marriages eventually become less about living together and more about enduring each other. We endure until we stop arguing.We endure until we compromise. We endure until the children grow up.

And eventually, we may not even know whether we are staying because of love, responsibility, habit, or simply fear of change.

But must marriage become something we merely endure?

I don't think so.

A lasting relationship doesn't require us to remain passionately in love every single day.

It requires two people who know how to keep love alive.

That is Love Intelligence (LQ).

Care — After decades together, can I still notice your needs instead of taking you for granted?

Courage — When something is wrong, can we speak honestly, face it and change, instead of burying it beneath years of silence?

Connection — Even though we see each other every day, are we still curious about each other? Can we have deep conversations and keep our hearts from slowly drifting apart?

Ultimately, marriage isn't only about managing another person.

It is also about managing our own heart.

Less calculation. More understanding. Less:

Because perhaps the greatest danger in marriage isn't divorce.

Two people can still sleep in the same bed every night while their hearts have been living apart for years.

Love may bring two people together. Responsibility may keep them together.

But what enables two people to stay together, grow together and still choose each other after many years—

is Love Intelligence. (More at here https://asiatrainers.org/lqbook)

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